My son’s last grandparent passed away a couple of weeks ago. Almost exactly two years since his mum died. Six weeks before his mums death his other granny had passed away. So much death for someone so young.

The service was at the same place his mum was cremated. I was really concerned about how he would cope. He actually did ok. Well on the outside he was ok. On the inside I’m sure he was completely not ok. He was really quiet and distant for much of the day. Then on the way home he became more talkative. He didn’t want to talk about the service, he wanted to think about other things. He spent the next four hours talking about top 3 lists. He frequently compiles these, it seems like it’s a place he can visit which is safe and which he can fully control.

Top 3 Dinosaurs

  1. Spinosaurus
  2. Velociraptor
  3. T-Rex

Top 3 Wrestlers

  1. Kane
  2. A J Styles
  3. Edge

Top 3 Bands/Stars

  1. David Bowie
  2. Alter Bridge
  3. Kiss

Top 3 Living Creatures

  1. Peregrin Falcon
  2. Polar Bear
  3. Wolves

Top 3 fears

  1. Giraffes
  2. Cows
  3. Crowds

Top 3 funny shows

  1. Simpsons
  2. Horrible Histories
  3. Gravity Falls

And the lists went on and on. With each passing list his mood continued to lift. Then he said it’s about time my dad featured on one of the lists. For a few nano seconds I pictured myself competing for top spot with the likes of George Clooney or Dwayne Johnson. But clearly from my son’s cheeky smile, I was looking at the wrong end of the gene pool.

Top 3 Idiots

  1. Homer Simpson
  2. Dad
  3. Patrick (from Spongebob)

Not sure how to take the last list. I suppose at least I’m behind Homer, but really, in front of Patrick.

41 thoughts on “Another trip to the crematorium”

      3. I do! When Declan was 2 and 3 Spongebob was on the TV on repeat. Declan didn’t pay attention to much – he didn’t sit for anything. But he liked it on. His therapist told me that with all the flashing colors and sounds it was sensory pleasing to him. Anyway – I at least listened to a lot of Spongebob 🙂 Yes, he sounds like he has a great personality. Be great if he would share it 🙂

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  8. I only discovered your blog tonight, as you had liked one of my posts and I came to check out yours. I am left in tears, but also with so much admiration for the challenges you are facing. Parenting … sigh … it doesn’t come with instructions and we all make more mistakes than we’d like, but if we care, if we teach our children to care, in the end it works … somehow. I think, just from what little I’ve read, that you are an awesome dad and your son is going to be just fine. Two thumbs up to you!

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