Another meeting with school and again more promises from them. I hope this time things start to move forward. But I do worry that they don’t have a plan, maybe they don’t really get the implications of an Aspergers and Dyslexia diagnosis. Again my heart goes out to our son. When the teacher said that he had made quite a few new friends, our son replied:

“If you include the kids who are forced to sit next to me in the classes, then yes I have made friends. If you include kids who want to talk to me then the answer is no”

I really don’t know what else I can say to him. I can’t think of any further advice I can offer him at the moment. All I can do is try to take his mind off things for a while. One sure fire ‘take your mind off bad stuff’ area is OUR PETS. He particularly loved this new pet incident.

Clearly the pet crime situation is worse than first feared. The pets are the one thing guaranteed to bring a smile back to our son’s face. Maybe my primary job is to just make him happy. Following on from the recent pants incident there is evidence of pet collusion. After unloading a clothes wash I dropped a sock. Within a nanosecond the pup had grabbed it and was belting round the house. By the time I had caught up with him, no sock could be found. I searched everywhere but absolutely no sign. Then I saw the girl cat slowly walking into the garden carrying the sock. She calmly dropped the sock onto one of our molehills, before strolling back in.

So clearly the girl cat and puppy are in collusion. But is the mole part of this crime gang or was this just a poor attempt to frame him. My son thinks it’s a framing job. But more importantly is made our son smile again.

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      1. I notice our cats always want to lay on paper in our home office. I don’t get it, but they will actually kind of pull out a piece of paper from the printer pile to lay on top of rather than just laying on the carpet.

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  1. My heart goes out to your son too, when you wrote what he said to you about friends, that’s so sad and if I were in your position I wouldn’t really know what other advice to give either. I think making him happy however you can is a wonderful approach. And of course the pet incidents seem like a good way to raise a smile, even though they’re unintentional! I’d agree with your son, definitely seems like a framing job 😉

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  2. I have a friend just outside of Toronto that has Asperger’s and he is well into his 60s. He was lucky to have a Dad like you.

    I sent him a link to your site. If you hear from a ‘Herbert’, that’s him. Brilliant gentleman…

    Keep us posted on the plotting animals.

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  3. For your son to know that you love him and want to spend time with him would obviously mean a lot to him and help buffer the blow of peer rejection . But I know that heart ache you must be feeling, it’s so difficult to see our kids feel rejected.
    You are doing an amazing job.

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  4. My husband’s nephew has Aspergers, he is 25 now, his mother fought for him to stay in main stream school, he didn’t want to, but as he got older it got better. Its very hard work, but he went to Uni…..they are so clever, he writes music, all in his head, but it took a long time. Does you son like music, just an idea, but it would seem he gets enjoyment from your pet family, which can only be good 🙂

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  5. My heart goes out to both you and your son … but I can tell that you love him enough to find a way through this, to find a way for him to learn and also be happy. It requires mounds of patience. The furry family members are obviously doing their part to help make him happy!!! Two thumbs up to them all … special treats for them tonight! 😉

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  6. Hi there. I am the mother of a child with autism and I do a lot of voluntary work to help parents of children with ASD get the help they need as I used to be a senior manager in schools. I’d be very happy to try and help you if I can. D you live in the UK? You can contact me on twitter or on my blog. You followed me yesterday. I am so grateful for that. Thank you.

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      1. I live in South Yorkshire. My email is ejaleigh@yahoo.co.uk I have helped a lot of parents to get their children the support that they need. My son has Asperger’s and he attends a specialist school. He is 18 and about to leave. I have been through the whole EHC process so I know a lot about it.

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  7. I am glad your child has such a good parent. I grew up undiagnosed, lost my father at the age of 12, and endured some extreme abuse from my mother and other family members. It is amazing that I turned out even half as decent as I did lol.

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    1. Even more tragically, my nephew who is autistic (Aspergers) had his mother die at the age of 12, and his father died when he was 13. He is doing well now all things considered though. Just started his first year of college.

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  8. I’m so sorry about the school situation. I think, over and over, that people trying to ‘help’ my son need to simply spend a week -no- two DAYS with him.

    We were at the school one time after hours to help decorate his teacher’s door when he had a meltdown. A passing administrator (supposedly knowing of his issues) popped in with a worried look and said, “Oh. Is he okay?” *facepalm*

    And, besides making him happy you need to do research on his specific challenges and learn what will be best for him in school. Sorry, but I’ve finally realized this with mine. The administrators and teachers simply don’t know, or maybe don’t have enough time, or basically cannot care as much as you do for your son.

    Good luck. And, your pets are hilarious!

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    1. I’ve come to the same conclusion with his current teachers. I’ve asked the school if I can have 30 minutes with his teachers to tell them what I currently know. Not sure they are too keen.

      I must admit we’ve only just started this journey and we have only just scratched the surface. Hopefully as we move on, the list of does/don’t will fill out.

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