We have some odd pets. This time it’s the big boy cat. For some strange reason as soon as we light the candle, the boy cat has to sit next to the pumpkin. If we move the pumpkin, the cat follows. Last year he did the same. Bizarre.
Halloween can be an odd time for our son. Before the world changed he loved the whole Halloween experience. Making the scariest pumpkin possible. But after his mum died it took on a different meaning. In his eyes it became a transition date. The cross over between the time he associates with death and funerals to the period of happiness and life. Over the last two years the period running up to Halloween has brought 3 major deaths – probably 3 out of the 4 closest family members. The period after Halloween brings fireworks, Christmas and anniversary of welcoming the mad dog into the family.
Halloween has now evolved into a mix of reflection for what has gone and for a celebration of happier times. Hence the pumpkin has now moved from the scariest possible to a sort of party boy. This is no bad thing.
Maybe the cat is waiting for the party to start. Waiting for ‘Trumper’ to start the festivities. I didn’t ask my son why he called this years pumpkin, Mr Trumper. I assume it’s because of the trumpet like thing in his mouth – can’t possibly think of anything else that the pumpkin could be named after….
I hope you guys have a good Halloween. 🎃
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You as well. Thanks
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Thanks. 😱💀🎃
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It can be strange they way losses tend to group around each other. Its a lot of change and its interesting all of this happens when the Pluto influence is so strong. I think its important to have rituals that honour death and transitions.
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You are so right. Thank you
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Have a good Halloween!!
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You as well. Thank you
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Your son is handling everything that has happened so courageously. I admire his strength – as I do yours.
Growing up we didn’t celebrate Halloween, no giving out candy, dressing up, going trick or treating, etc. Now with my own family, I don’t do the decorations, handing out candy, but I do allow my children to dress in costumes – none scary costumes. It’s not a holiday we celebrate. I’m Hispanic and we do celebrate and remember the people that have passed on, on November 1st. But the children lean more towards Halloween than the other, so they dress up October 31st.
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Your way is good. I remember we went to Switzerland one Halloween and it just was not recognised. Didn’t see anything at all. Even the kids – not one costume.
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Thank you. Wow! Yes, it’s just not something that is too big of a thing. And I get it. There isn’t a significance around it, so why bother really.
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It’s strange how Halloween has changed in my lifetime. When I was a kid, you didn’t go trick or treating, it was a turnip rather than a pumpkin, roasted chestnuts on the fire, bed sheet ghost costumes and a ghost story for bed. When you got into the teenage years I was allowed to watch a Hammer Horror movie.
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Very interesting! You did a lot more than I did! I also think that now, people do take advantage to do even more harm. The costumes are also getting more elaborately scarier by the year. There was a man last year walking around with an IT costume – so real looking, just walking around causing scary reactions to the small children. Ugh! It’s like really, go to an adult setting with that, not where children are.
A pediatrician came on the radio this morning saying how 45% of children’s deaths happen on Halloween between the hours of 6pm and 7pm. They are caused out on the streets – understandably so, since they are outside. If a parent wants to go out and trick or treat with little ones, they need to be extra cautious of their surroundings.
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Every year seems to be a push to make the costumes and actions more scarier. I think sometimes people forget about other people. They do things on one night that they wouldn’t dream doing on any other night.
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Yes they do, don’t know what’s the mission to that, other then scaring the children. Very true! 🙌🏽
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It scares me never mind the children.
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😂 I get scared and then grab them, so they don’t.
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I just run in the opposite direction. On these occasions I’m quicker than Usain Bolt.
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Lol 🏃🏽♂️💨 I would too! 😂
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I had to look up that name…
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Mr Trumper is a great name! He in upside down New Zealand I just planted my pumpkin seeds yesterday!
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Upside down is good. I hope the upside down method works better than the northern Yorkshire hemisphere approach. When they do grow they don’t get any bigger than an orange. Not good for carving.
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Trumper, I almost spit out my coffee laughing at that! Clever kid 🙂 Your cat is adorable and too funny that he follows the pumpkin around. Cats and their heat sources.
Hope you guys enjoy your Halloween!
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You be happy to. Thank you
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Great pumpkin – and that is interesting that the cat follows it around 🙂 May your transition into happier times be a good one! 🙂
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I hope so. Thank you.
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Thank you
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I love the boy cat and pumpkin 🙂 So cute.
Your son is dealing with so much and I feel for all of you 😢 Wishing you the best.
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Thank you so much.
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I had to smile at the play on words 😊. I hope you will enjoy the festivities this evening. This is the first year we haven’t had a pumpkin.
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I hope so to. When I was a kid we couldn’t get Pumpkins so we used a turnip. I can still remember the horrible smell of turnip soup.
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Oh yes, we used turnips, too. I always wished we could have something which was easier to carve.
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They were a nightmare, a turnip is the hardest substance in the universe.
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Yes 😀
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🤣 Beets are pretty close!
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Very close
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Reblogged this on Antonella Lallo.
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Happy Halloween 🎃🎃
https://emosassygirl.wordpress.com/2018/10/31/halloween-is-not-over-im-coming/
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My son wants these now. Beyond my ability. They look great.
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That is so cool!
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I hope so
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🎃🎃🎃
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That child right there is one smart little man. You should be proud. I chuckled at the name Mr. Trumper the Pumpkin. 🙂
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Thank you
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Most welcome. I look forward to reading more of his gems. Children often see more clearly than we do as adults
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I think a lot of things are drummed out of us as we grow older.
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Thank you. Will do that right now.
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I’ve heard about the turnips with faces. What is a ‘Hammer Horror’ movie?
Your big boy kitty reminds me of my Ollie, sans the white fur. And, my Ollie has thumbs.
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It’s an old 60s 70s series of horror movies with Peter Cushion and Christopher Lee.
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I looked up Hammer. They are still making movies.
I think Christopher Lee & Peter Cushing were born old-looking. 😉
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I think Hammer should never have done a movie if either Christopher Lee and Peter Cushing weren’t in it. Wow I’m the old fart today.
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Trumper the Pumpkin… Heh. Is he aware of our Prez?
Your pets are adorable.
I am so sorry for your losses. Things just never really heal. My paternal-paternal GGF dropped dead in mid sentence on Christmas Eve 1971 on the sidewalk in front of the house. I was five. I just barely remember him. And, my father lost his beloved GF. His Christmases were never the same after that.
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Often life is just too sad and cruel.
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No connection to Donald trump and his orange fake tanned face….?
No, I’m thinking it’s due to the trumpet thing in his mouth too!
Youre very good at being observant and reflective about your son and his needs etc.
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Never thought about Donald…..
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I found this post, honestly, very emotional. There are memories we associate with every fest, with every feast and wish for beautiful forever’s until life decides to be uncertain. May be then, as difficult it may be, and I don’t truly know if I believe in it wholly, is time to create new memories. I completely empathise with you and you are doing an awe-inspiring job!
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Thank you. Quite often I’m not sure what I believe these days. Tend to believe in anything my son buys into.
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Oh yes. Two major family deaths here occurred in Lent–the church season leading up to Easter. Those deaths just settle into the season, meld with it, and we can no treat that season as we used to. It sounds wonderful that your son can see the Halloween season as a time to celebrate lives missed and still so dearly loved. Not that we don’t miss them all year–had a cry the other day over my father’s absence again. He’d have gotten such a kick out of his grandkids trick or treating…
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It’s gets me when something great happens and I think that his mum or his grandparents would have loved seeing it. My son lost his grannies and mum in the period just before Halloween. I think he almost sees that period as his ‘sad’ period and Halloween marks that periods end.
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And if that helps him live forward and cope, then good.
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I hope so
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I’m sorry for all the losses. I’m happy that you’re getting through it. Love the cat and the dog.
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Thank you
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Ciao
scusami, purtroppo una mia ignoranza d’inglese mi impedisce di leggere il blog. Passerò dal cell al pc così potrò mettere in tradizione e leggerti.
Intanto…
Grazie per essere passato/a da me.
Un sorriso
Chiara
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anche il mio italiano è povero
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