Once again in the wonderful, wacky world of parenting you get another curveball question.

“Dad I know a man can love a man or a woman or be single … are there any other options”.

I’m sure the response to that question was on page 675 of the parenting manual. I wish……

I don’t know how many times I have heard the line, “kids grow up so fast”. That is so true. What happened to the Teletubby or BananaSpilts questions. What happened to the where does Spongebob live. I could answer them.

Then you look at the pets. It only seemed yesterday when we had two lovely, friendly kittens – who just played with a ball of wool all day. Now they rip the curtains off the wall and are top of the food chain in our part of the world.

Or the dog, once so cute and shy. Spending his time snuggling up to cuddly toys. Now currently caked in mud last seen trying to dig his way to Australia.

Yes I dream of days gone by now. Happier times. Simpler times. Safer times. But as much I dream those days are just memories now. So back to today. Where is that parenting manual, where is page 675, and where is that answer to that question.

Sorry sorry sorry – I suspect this post was just a poor excuse to show some cute baby animal photos.

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      1. I have a young friend who is a single mom of a eight years old. She is always reading up on how to deal with different situations, before they come up. You can follow suit.

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      6. There you go! Yes they are! Also, for putting on our shelf and making others think we’ve read them and are ‘prepared.’ I think I googled a video for a c-section, maybe the night before my first c-section. After that, why bother? Ever pregnancy is different, every doctor is different, hospital, baby, you make it! So, relax, buckle up and enjoy the ride! 😊

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  4. Every age of kids bring new challenges and new question, I always search on google I guess that’s the manual I use. When my daughter simply crawled I would wonder when will she start walking now when she walks I realize she was better back than 😕

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    2. Haha! I’m there with you! I’m never in a rush for the next stage or milestone. They’ll reach it when they’re good and ready. Besides when you do want your baby to walk, your insisting and wishing they’d sit! So, ugh! 🤦🏽‍♀️ Let them be.

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  6. So? How did you answer the question? That is what I want to know. I probably would have said something like,” People can love a lot of things.” And then perhaps encourage him to tell you all the nouns he loves…. (people, places and things). That way the question is diverted to just love. The two of you could make lists of all the things you love…. This way you might avoid the real question for a while… and have fun thinking of things you both love. Then, (yeah it is the teacher in me always creating lessons in my head) make a venn diagram of all your similarities and differences in what you love. A fun way to answer a question and avoid anything you don’t want to talk about. LOL And he can draw all the things he loves… It could be entertaining.

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    1. You’ve just answered it for me. I’m going to have a second crack at the answer now. My answer of love is a beautiful thing and a person is free to choose the subject of their love…. he immediately came back with “so what are the options then”. Luckily I was saved just in time by the cat and the litter tray.

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      1. I think oftentimes what WE think they’re asking isn’t really the same as what they’re thinking. So answer what you’re comfortable answering. In my case I’d focus on the word love. You could also get into antonyms and sort of move the topic. Have a race on listing as many things you each love and as many thinks you hate or dislike. If you use nouns it could be anything from Pizza to roller coasters or a swamp. Have fun with it. After all that if he still goes back to the original question you can tell him honestly that you don’t know of any other options.
        I learned a long time ago that teachers and parents don’t have to have ALL the answers. As long as you answer as honestly as you can it satisfies them. We do the best we can.

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  7. It can be useful to answer a question with a question eg “who told you that?” and then you can steer the question around to why did that person…etc. It is generally agreed that there are more questions than answers so you shouldn’t run out of defensive questions and so answer the ones you want to. Good luck!

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  9. i love any excuse to show proud baby animal photos. kids really startle me with questions too. ah the days of teletubbies and spongebob, now its rap music and angst, they do grow up so fast

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  11. Cats have so many more options than humans, including, “Living in one household but leading a double/triple/quadruple etc. life with others.” Louis Catorze’s big brother Luther would often come in from the rain suspiciously warm, dry and unhungry, although I don’t know where he went!

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      1. Yes! I’ve already explained to my oldest daughter about her menstrual cycle. She has a pad in her backpack just in case she gets it for the first time in school. 😳 I mean, what else can you do?! But just let Mother Nature take it’s course.

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      3. Haha! Then my kids are full of tea!
        You’re right, it is a balancing act. Each is different, learns different, speaks different, handles situations differently, approaches us differently, etc. Always go with your heart and don’t ever have a question go unanswered, even if Siri or Google are going to be helping! 😊

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  15. I so love all if your posts. You don’t need an excuse to post cute animal pix. And, sometimes, “I don’t know” is a valid answer.

    Has pup made it to Australia, yet? Water pistols are also effective for curtain-climbing cats.

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  17. I grow up having lots of pets in early life… now since migrating then began an expat life in another Country it is so hard to even keep one! I am missing those and lucky you have some. Cheers!

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  22. The animals are adorable, but I can relate–Biff got into a huge kerfuffle at school because he was to be partnered with a boy for some bingo game. “Boys go with girls for babies, not boys!” THAT–and screaming the other boy was a “fake” partner–landed him with the principal. Where the heck he got that from…We haven’t even had The Talk around here yet!

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    1. I don’t think I found out about that stuff until I got to university. My son was taught ‘that stuff’ when he was 8 at primary school. Certainly didn’t come from me.

      Sometimes schools don’t realise how important it is to get the partnering or who you sit next to, correct. My lad got partnered with 3 kids in art. The 3 were good friends and ignored my lad. When he spoke to the teacher she said he should work harder to make them his friends.

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      1. UGH. Primary schools start the sex ed waaaaaaaaay too early under “health education.” My friend used to teach 1st grade health ed and got sickened by it–kids would play the “sex game”–no joke–at recess. Just…no. They can’t handle it yet.

        And that’s just it–when kids have their circles, that’s great, but at that age they don’t feel the need to open their circle. it’s theirs. Your son…honestly, we need to get our sons together sometime, if it weren’t for the massive distance.

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      3. Yes, exactly! I heard it explained once…hmm. Something about progressive acceptance of multiple kinds of couples and relationships. It’s still dumb.
        Playdates make me so nervous. But for your son it’d be worth it. (And I wouldn’t mind talking to you too:)

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      4. All seems to young for some kids. I wish there was a cartoon series that you could start them watching at say 5 and it took them through childhood, bringing in some educational messages at the right time. Not sure I trust Spongebob for that. Yes Play dates always seem like it’s the parents forcing things without kids involvement but your chap does sound really cool.

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      5. Ha! I used to love spongebob for the kids, the early seasons. They’re so bizarre and silly. Our kids love watching the three stooges, the marx brothers, loony tunes…get rather violent in there, they do…oops….
        I did find the Little Einstein series to be really nice when the kids were 3 to, oh, I think they’re on the end of the spectrum now with 6. Nothing intense, lots of music and vocabulary with a big red rocket.
        Come to think–know what we need back? Muppet Babies. All about imagination, friendship, and teamwork. Not the CG nonsense Disney has out now, but the series from the 80s. LOVED that show!
        I’d like to say he’s a cool chap. 🙂 Such a gear head, he is. He’ll crawl under trucks to look at their parts. Neighbors still don’t know how to respond to that…
        Your chap sounds awesome, too. xxxxx

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