Some days life is good. Somedays it’s a pile of crap. Often it’s full of unwanted coincidences.

Seven hours ago I was writing a so called humorous post about our naughty girl cat.

Four hours ago my son was sat with Daisy on his lap. The two have always been close. She helped get him through his mums death.

Then out of the blue a brief seizure and she left us.

Yes a naughty girl but much loved. Yet again son is dealing with death. Yet again a parent lost for words. Today life is crap.;

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  2. I am so terribly sorry for your pain. Please tell your son this story:

    When my golden retriever Dylan passed away (January of 2015) I wanted to die. Dylan had been everything to me, he helped me through depression, sobriety and so, so much more. He was only eleven, but he had leukemia. One night, after giving him a milk bone, he bled so profusely we had to put him down. The next evening, I went to let my other pup out, and I heard music. Thinking it was the bells of the chapel down the road, I looked at the time. 9 pm. The bells only played at noon and six pm. As I reentered the kitchen, the music became louder, but music like I had never heard. So soothing, so hauntingly beautiful. I happened to look up at the pot rack above our stove, and noted that the music was coming from that area, though no pot touched another. I was then overcome by the love that boy had shared, God’s love and the peace that surpasses all understanding. God bless you and comfort you~

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  9. Oh no. I am so sorry to hear his news. Losing a pet is so horribly underestimated and in reality it is incredibly painful. I hope you and your son are doing ok, it must of been such a shock. 😢 All I can say by way of comfort is at least she was with you and not alone, I am sure it gave her comfort.

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  20. I am so very very sorry. How awful. Life is indeed shit at times. Sometimes it feels like it is always shit. Such deep pain. I din’t know what to say. I feel your pain with you and your som. Xx

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  25. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a cat suddenly in December right before Christmas. He was only a year and a half old and it hit me very hard. Losing a loved one is never easy. I am sending good thoughts and positive vibes your way.

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      1. Love in our Christ Jesus. I know it is hard. I raised 2 children and worked 2 jobs in the 1960s. Hope you know that I was not being sarcastic. 🙂

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  35. Bad news, yes grief is a difficult trial for autism – but you have each other and you will get through it as l have read before and know you have, and death whilst horrible makes you stronger.

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      1. Please don’t think my comment horribly generic my friend, it’s not that, l actually feel for you both. But your Son does have his Dad, whom will be his absolute rock.

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      3. I know, l can see it from his way as well as yours. Death is a nasty subject at any age.

        I have found death one of the hardest emotions to grapple with, with Asperger’s. But at 11, you don’t want that in your life and sadly your son has had to face it so very hard.

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  36. Yes l too read that tale about Chris, it’s because in many ways we feel safer with animals as our companions. It’s a terrible thing to say, but l have always felt the impact of the death of one of my companions much harder to bear than the loss of a human being, not always, but many a time. I know when l lost Dora, it was like my world just ended. I still had Scrappy and it’s not that l don’t think of losing her, and how that is going to affect me, but Dora and l were like an old married couple, she knew me too well, so well, completely and utterly.

    But l think with Asperger’s/Autism, we are at times vulnerable, more than even we realise, because we entrust so much of our emotions without actually understanding how we do it, so when we have dedicated our soul to a companion, it hits hard. It’s no different to people, they are the same with loved ones, you just lose a part of your soul, and when you keep losing a part of your soul, it hardens you.

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    1. You talk about it so well. Yes the loss breaks his fragile trust in the world. We work so hard to rebuild it then it breaks again. Maybe it’s time for another approach, need to think about that. Now we face a school week he was already hating but now also emotionally wrecked. Going to be a long week I fear.

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  41. OMG. And, I was just reading about her antics. Poor baby. I don’t know which is worse, losing them suddenly or having to put them down. I’ve suffered both. My heart broke into a 1000 pieces each time. You grieve a friend & a family member.

    It hurts me that this has happened to you & your son. Even companion pets will grieve.

    Big hugs, love. I’m so sorry…😭

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    1. Thank you for the kind words. It is hell either way. This was just a shock. She was in fine form. Sat on son’s lap having strokes and purring, then suddenly a seizure and gone within seconds. Healthy 7 year old with zero health issues. Son can’t stop blaming himself. xxx

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  42. I am so very sorry for your loss, my heart hurts for you and your son 🧡 May you find comfort is the sweet memories and know she will be waiting at the rainbow bridge to meet you again 🌈

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