Sometimes change goes smoothly. This beauty was happily rooted then along came a big bully in the form of a trampoline. As a result the plant was uprooted and moved. Absolutely no issues and the flowers are as stunning as ever.
Sometimes change does not go smoothly. Our son has real difficulty with change. Even the smallest change can lead to an anxiety vortex.
He has had the same bed since he was a toddler. It started way to big for him – not anymore. The dreaded day has been looming where he finally outgrows the bed. That time has now arrived. For months I’ve been warning him that he will need a new bed but he has remained steadfast in his rejection of the idea. Time for action.
While he was at school I moved his bed out. Replacing it with the spare bed. Face it the spare bed hasn’t been used in 3 years. So when he came home we had a bit of a meltdown.
“Dad do you remember I helped put it together with my toy toolset.”
I so do. I can feel tears on my part forming. But he agreed to try the replacement bed for at least one night. In the end it went quite well really. The house is still here. We didn’t break the space-time continuum. On the downside sleep was a tad limited. When I say limited I mean next to nothing.
So tonight we will try again. Hoping sleep deprivation will be an Ally. If he’s not asleep by 2am I will let him sleep on the sofa. Not sure what I will do then. Probably just move his old bed back in and have a rethink.
I hate change. I hate being tired. Like most parents I hate the passing of time.
Hopefully he will continue to be alright with his new bed.
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Still not great. But thanks.
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Hopefully he is sleeping well on his new bed now
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The fight continues
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God Bless you and him!
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Thank you so much
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How was it? Did he sleep tonight? Hoping he did!
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Not much better.
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Sorry to hear that 😒
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Don’t be many parents have much worse to deal with.
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Oy. Hope it goes ok.
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Wasn’t great so we will need to see.
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Good luck!! Beds and comfort are so very important.
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They so are
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It is so hard for children with special needs 😥
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It is.
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Will pray for a good nights sleep…and a good adjustment!
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We will need to think about tonight.
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Hello Single dad. I understand your want / need to give in if he doesn’t adjust in a few days. But there will come a time in his life where things simply won’t change no matter what. If the bed doesn’t fit, he is not going to stop growing. Is it not better to face the problem now than in the future? Now please understand I say this not being in your position at all, and have no real idea what you are going through. I did know a mentally handicapped person who had the body of a 40 year old and the mind of a 5 or 6 year old. She couldn’t handle changes to her environment or routine and often it meant weeks of getting things back to normal. I couldn’t have done it but her state paid caregivers were wonderful at caring for her. Hugs
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We will find a way. Thanks
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Hello Single dad. I didn’t mean to step on your toes. You are dealing with a very heavy load and doing very well. Be well. Hugs
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You didn’t sir. My wording was more due to my sleepy brain. I sent an email about someone called Peter yet I kept calling him she….
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Hello Single Dad. Your response was fine, maybe even better than I might has done. I got thinking later after I made the comment that as a man without children, and a special needs one, without the stresses of your situation I was rather full of my own opinion. I got thinking I was sort of telling the repair person how to do the job when I don’t know how to even use the tools. 😃👍 Be well. Hugs
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Thank you so much. Knowing my luck if I called for a repair person our PM would show up.
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I hope that he accepts it.
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We will see.
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It’s not a “bed of roses”, but try to make the best of every day my friend.
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Thank you
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We have a grandson just like this and yep… it’s a difficult one. We try everything and sometimes different things work. But the emphasis is on different and the same things don’t work twice in a row. My fingers are crossed though tat just maybe some magical thing will happen and he will see..hey this bed is okay.
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Thank you. Let’s see what happens tonight. He’s fine yet I am a zombie…
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Yeah, kids have a habit of making you feel you are on the wrong side of the apocalypse….
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They so do.
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On a daily basis and in seconds too. Chin up.
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Thank you will do.
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Peonies don’t like being moved, yet this one has managed beautifully
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If anything it’s better now. Unusual for my gardening skills.
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Oh gosh, I am sorry. That stinks. Right now Catelyn is having the worst time wearing clothes that fit her. She is still wearing the same size she was wearing for the past three years. She’s grown taller and the clothes are too small. But in her mind, she wears a child’s medium. I am getting generic emails home about the proper length of shorts, knowing hers are too short but not sure not how to get her to change. At least me sleep isn’t being bothered though. I hope things go better tonight and you both find some restful sleep.
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That must be so tough. Son is the same. I have to buy exactly the same clothes just a size bigger – and sneakily change them over when he’s not here. Only works somedays. Must admit sometimes it’s my fault. As we get closer to the end of the school year I tend to hold off buying new school clothes. His trousers are already starting to get a bit short – and they have to make it till July. Thanks.
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What about putting familiar things he likes on the bed? Perhaps ask him to decorate the headboard (I can see Alvin and the chipmunks everywhere), so he feels he has made a nest for his emotions?
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Tried to put a few Pokemon toys on the bed but the dog helped himself and moved them to his bed…. Going to try again. Thanks
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Perhaps the dog should sleep with your son. Then the toys won’t get removed. 😉
Hope tonight gives you needed sleep. You sound so tired! 😔😴
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That’s a good idea. Thank you
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Thank you
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Hoping tonight brings much needed rest for both of you. You are a thoughtful, caring Dad and your son is blessed to have you🙏🏻.
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Thank you so much
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Thank you
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My son is opposed to my putting his bed (finally) up on a frame. *sigh*
My other one liked his better after I made it really comfortable, with a pillow-top sheet thing on the mattress. I also suggest you have your son personalize his new bed in some way, like painting or etching the frame.
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That is a great idea. Need something.
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I am guessing sleepness nights for your son, might mean sleepless nights for you too 😦
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Indeed. It’s 1.18am and still going strong……
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Awwww … 😥 Big hugs to you both! ❤
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Thank you
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It’s good you are always up for a challenge…. maybe not fully awake for it, but up! 😉
Hoping you both get your much needed beauty sleep.
I suppose logic and reasoning doesn’t hold much sway in the argument FOR change??
(Not ALL change is bad/give examples of good changes, etc…?)
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Thank you sir. On the evening walk encountered 2 heron. No phone so couldn’t take a picture. Now you my sir would have had your camera with you.
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I’m definitely getting better.
But it’s the seeing and stopping to admire for a few that is most important.
Sharing with others is secondary! 😉
So glad you got a smile for the day at least!
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Got to try and smile
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Just changing the boys’ clothes between seasons can be horrid. But thankfully, we did the bed change early–the boys moved from cribs to bunk beds around 2yrs old. No broken bones yet!
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Is that your bones. Luckily our weather is always rubbish so we don’t often get much need to change clothes. One thing he has refused to wear shorts since he was 4.
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Ha! Thankfully Bo built the bed–mainly–I helped a bit 🙂 Oh I’m always terrified someone will fall off and break an arm. I’ve got three friends with kids who broke a limb via bunk bed. We still have the guard screen up for the top bunk for Biff, and only finally took the guard screen off the bottom bunk this spring. Considering their crazy playground antics, I no longer fear Bash falling twelve inches in his sleep. 🙂
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My dad would put a thin mattress next to my bunk bed and say don’t worry son you will bounce.
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Hee hee! I’ve actually done that with extra blankets. 🙂
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It works when they make films – most times.
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