So she is leaving before the job is done. Tears for her own job but not for 72 people who died in London on the 14th June 2017. Says it all. Time for the next numpty.

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You do get asked some questions in life. Some you can answer, some you can’t and some which you can’t quite comprehend. In 2016 the world changed for us. Over 6 weeks our young son experienced two much death for someone so young. I got plunged into single parenting – a role I was completely unprepared for and at a time when I was close to breaking. Since those fateful 6 weeks we have been asked so many questions about bereavement, single parenting and the future. Here are some of the left field ones.

“What’s it like not to have a mum” – a classmate asked that 4 days after he lost his mum

Have you thought about hiring a full time nanny” – a Parent

Do you think he is too young to properly grieve” – a Parent

Have you thought about a dating agency ” – a neighbour 2 weeks after the funeral

Luckily he is autistic so he won’t feel as much” – a Parent.

“I’m sorry for your loss but can you start back at work tomorrow as your project needs to stay on track” – a Senior Manager one week after the funeral

Now your a single parent what are you going to do with your new found free time” – a Dad in the school playground

Dads don’t cook so do you get lots of takeouts” – a classmate with a Dad who spends most of his time in the pub and playing golf

“Surely your career is the most important thing to you” – a Senior Manager after I quit to be there for our son

“Can’t your son just go to stay with someone during the week so you can do this role. Have you got family who could look after him” – same Senior Manager

“We are reading a book in lesson next week which has a boy who has just lost his mum. You don’t have any objections do you” a teacher

“You must think yourself quite lucky. You have closure. When my wife left me I didn’t get closure” – a Dad in the school playground

Have you phoned the Samaritans.” – a mum. I only asked if she had any idea why my bread wasn’t rising evenly.

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This time can we get a Leader how is up to the job. No numpties should be allowed to apply – that includes you Boris.

97 thoughts on “Deadly Question Time

  1. I continue to be shocked when you write these posts that people are really that ignorant never mind having the gall to ask them. I am so sorry that for some bizarre reason you seem to have cornered the market on dumb morons. Not just morons but dumb morons. They as you well know are the worst. Have you ever (not at the time but now) ever felt like asking them a wildly inappropriate question about themselves? Just to make them squirm. I may be a little vindictive lol Hugs 🙂

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      1. Oh please do and tell me what happens. If you want an idea let me know and I will tell you what I said to my customers on Thursday who thought they were softly bitching and I heard them. I am evil because I made them cringe. 😂😂😂

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  2. That one about the bread rising!lol…I would have looked at her all confused and said “The Samaritans would know why my bread didn’t rise? So, you don’t know?” I wouldn’t even ask it to be rude, but because I’d be genuinely confused,lol

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  3. “I’m sorry for your loss but can you start back at work tomorrow as your project needs to stay on track” – a Senior Manager one week after the funeral (Are you done grieving, yet? Huh? Huh? Huh? Well…HURRY UP. You have a PROJECT. Good candidate for a punch in the face.)

    “Now your a single parent what are you going to do with your new found free time” – a Dad in the school playground (Um…slap stupid people that ask stupid questions?)

    “Surely your career is the most important thing to you” – a Senior Manager after I quit to be there for our son (Same Senior Manager? Hit him (or her) again!)

    “You must think yourself quite lucky. You have closure. When my wife left me I didn’t get closure” – a Dad in the school playground (Sudden death is closure??? *SLAP*)

    “Have you phoned the Samaritans.” – a mum. I only asked if she had any idea why my bread wasn’t rising evenly. (Did the Samaritans offer any bread-rising advice?)

    Governmentally speaking, we are ALL screwed.

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      1. Sorry for over-advocating violence. Stuff that popped into my head while I was reading…

        I am, however, shocked that society has seemingly shifted to equate spousal loss/loved one’s death with a skinned knee (Hey! Just walk it off. You’ll be FINE. Just fine…). 😳😠😡🤬

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  4. Gary those questions are just awful. A d I know EXACTLY how crass people can be. I get the same sorts of things said to me – well, not about a son or daughter as I don’t have any. But other things that are utterly ridiculoys and positively insulting. Maybe Ivshould list my own on my own blog. I don’t know why people are like this, but I think some of them just don’t know what to say, in which case it would be far better for them to keep their moths shut and just give you a comforting touch (although some would feel uncomfortable at being touched maybe.). I have had the Samaritans one too over something minor and ridiculous. Also “Isn’t it time you went into a Home?” And many more things. But to get back to number ten. Well, I truly can’t feel that we will get anything much better but maybe I am being too pessimistic. The country is just in one godawful mess!

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      1. Oh lol Gary. That gave me a laugh. Yes, the things said to people such as us are both hurtful and utterly ridiculous. Later in time the pain wears off, but at the time, it hurts like hell, as you probably well know. But you have inspired me to write something about it in my own Blog, because it is educative! I don’t think people INTEND to hurt, to be honest, but it is lack of understanding and education. They blunder. It doesn’t stop the psychological damage it can do to people though, at a very vulnerable time. Sometimes I just stay silent but give a compassionate look if I can’t think what to say. It’s better than blundering and causing added pain to the person.

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  5. Some people probably don’t understand how it is to lose a loved – the process of grieving. At first, there is denial, anger, depression and finally acceptance of the situation. One can’t force oneself to be up and about in so short a time.

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  6. The deadest thing about those quotes is the brain they initiated in.

    Literally open jawed at the inconsiderate nature of the majority of those 😮

    Next numpty. I’m prepared to bet Boris won’t get the job – he signed his death warrant when he announced England would leave the EU with or without a deal if he’s PM.

    No PM for YOU! (As you are probably well aware the majority of MP’s in all party’s really don’t want a Brexit, even if the people in their electorates mostly do!) 😦

    🎶 “Bye-bye May-Be, baby Bye-bye!!…” 😉

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      1. That’s great. he’s quite a dry character. so is the dog. The wife gets mentioned periodically, but he is moving on with his life even though he is still grieving.

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  7. Holy s**t Gary. Those questions are so bloody awful, tactless, careless, heartless, inconsiderate, not to mention STUPID!!!!!!!! I’d have punched at least three of the asker’s lights out.
    As for our next PM? Are your gerbils still running?

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  8. People can be so thick, so unfeeling and lacking even the slightest bit of empathy. These questions made me cringe and brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for the stupidity and for the harshness. I hope there were (and are) at least a dozen caring people for every imbecile you and your son encountered then and will continue to encounter. Unfortunately there will always be thick and stupid people – but hopefully they are far outnumbered by the kind and the caring. Blessings….

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  9. I am shocked by some (most) of those statements. Don’t people think? Are people stupid or just emotionally sterile?

    There is hope that the Conservative party might just implode.

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    1. They will pull together and bounce us to another disaster, then the media will spout the crap about all the Tories can be trusted with the economy and don’t forget about the millions of immigrants waiting to swamp the country. Look I’ve just wrote a manifesto for them.

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  10. I. Am. Speechless. The utter thoughtlessness, or worse, cruelty of some of those remarks makes me want to smack somebody upside the head!!! Stupid, stupid people!!! That you didn’t kill somebody and land in prison speaks volumes about your tolerance and patience. I would be in a cell right now if I had been in your shoes. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

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  11. I raised my kids after my divorce, so a different situation, but I certainly recognise a lot of the unthinking and idiotic things that got said. I hope you’ve managed to ride them, and perhaps laugh at a few.

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  12. You are generous to share. I haven’t said any of these things but cringe to dwell on all the stupid things I’ve said throughout my life. Folks have said plenty of unintentionally hurtful things to me during times of crisis, unfortunately when I was least equipped to be prepared for them. To give others the benefit of the doubt, I believe that a) many people are awful communicators & b) people can be so eager to help that they are compelled to blather whatever they can muck up. This is a good reminder that we can be helpful by listening. Sending you & yours my best.

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  13. It is so sad what you have had to endure. I thought such people only existed in my neck of the woods. And they keep coming, y’know, but over time, we will learn how to respond. I’m a courteous person for the most part, but sometimes, when people who’ve never worn my kind of shoes try to tell me how to manage and respond, I let them have it.

    And my conscience doesn’t give me a hard time over it.

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