“Sometimes only one person is missing and the whole world seems depopulated” – Alphonse de Lamartine
Maybe it’s your partner. Maybe it’s your child. Maybe it’s a parent. Maybe it’s a friend. Maybe it’s a pet.
It does seem that way some days. Maybe it’s on a walk. MAYBE ITS STANDING BY A LONELY POND. Maybe it’s listening to a particular song. Maybe it’s during a movie. Maybe it’s when your in bed. Maybe it’s when your at the school gates surrounded by couples. Maybe it’s when your shopping. Maybe it’s just when you return to a home with no lights on.
But with bereavement it will happen. One gone make the world seems empty. So what do you do about it? Sadly no one right answer to that. Every person is different. Every grief journey is different. With me those lonely times still hit and still hurt. I try many things.
Sometimes I just let it hit me. Confused and helpless.
Sometimes I try to distract myself. Just hope I eventually forget that feeling.
Sometimes I just let it hit me but it’s kinda reassuring. Not ever loving would be so dreadful. Grief is another word for love.
Sometimes writing helps.
Sometimes reading blogs helps.
Sometimes I need to find solitude. Sometimes I need to be in a crowd.
Sometimes it’s reading an old favourite book.
Sometimes it’s looking at old photos.
Sometimes it’s playing a game.
Sometimes I go for a run.
Often it’s trying just that bit harder to be that better parent. Trying to make life just that bit more fun.
Then you get sometimes when the best thing is to carry on but just to do it louder. Much LOUDER. So this morning I am ironing but let’s just crank up that Iron Maiden cd just a little louder.
Ironing to Iron Maiden? I’ve obviously not been doing it right.
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It’s a winner but not sure it’s great for accurate creases.
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For that you need a large hankerchief or tea towel and a steam iron. My Dad taught me to iron. Needless to say my beloved husband doesn’t iron anything though he’s excellent at creasing stuff.
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Yes I suspect I’m not winning any ironing contests.
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I hate ironing. I rarely do it.
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It’s not great is it.
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For me ,its my parents loss that I am still trying to cope up.with.loved reading your post.so emotional yet so encouraging.u have a fighter spirit .
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That’s so kind of you. Parents is so tough.
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Coping the best you can, and there will be a time when you will remember without that much pain.
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I really hope so.
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I know that even the most deepest wounds stop hurting with time.
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They do.
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🙂
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🙏
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I love this post!
Thanks God for this all.
Warm hugs from Milan 😍
Vicky
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Thank you x
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You just need to do whatever it is that you need to do – including iron to Iron Maiden 😉
Yes, we all cope differently. And sometimes, allowing ourselves to feel is part of the healing.
Thinking of you guys xx
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Thank you xx
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Great post 💗
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That’s so kind of you x
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You express it so well, I prefer Devo myself 🙂
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That works.
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always helped me 🙂
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There’re days like “this” sometimes…but then the sun goes up again 🙂
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That’s why there is always hope.
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YEᔕᔕᔕᔕ 🤸♂️🤸♂️🤸♂️
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🙏 x
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‘Not ever loving would be so dreadful. Grief is another word for love.’ That is so well put, and so true.
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Thank you sir
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There is so much sound philosophy here, e.g. what Mick has picked out.
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Thank you sir as well.
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Turn up even louder. I am pretty certain they need to do scientific study into how loud music gets certain things going emotionally. Oh, and you don’t need to tell yourself to be a better parent at times. You are a great parent.
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Thank you. My hearings never been the same since I went to see Motörhead.
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Whatever it takes. And I like what Mick pointed out too.
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Thank you Robyn.
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Lovely post dear 🌹.
Ironing with Iron Maiden, how big a speaker do you need, how loud does it need to be and how close does the dress need to be to iron it out ? 😂
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BY FOR NOW
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With my ironing it needs to be cracking the walls loud, luckily the two neighbours are stone deaf. x
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Iron Maiden! Yes!!!!!!! Just go with it, but always, always, always keep moving forward!
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That is exactly right.
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You didn’t like those neighbours anyway…… 🙂
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They are stone deaf. Luckily.
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❤ I love ironing…never have I ironed to Iron Maiden ❤
Such a beautiful post!
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Thank you my good buddy.
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Iron Maiden , yes! Great band if you want loud . Well it sounds like your doing what you need to help you with void of your partner. I do know this feeling . I have lost many and even when my son heads back to his college I feel that silence . The house is a bit quieter . Okay sorry not helping . Running is great though . But I do love your choice in music . Turn it up lol🙂hugs my friend .
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Yes that silence does hit. Thank you and I will turn it up. x
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Good happy to hear that yes loud music is the best. Hugs
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It ever fails. x
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No never🙂
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I find autumn a difficult time of year. Every month is a reminder of loved ones no longer here with us. November is particularly difficult as it’s the month Dad died, my brother was killed by an impaired driver, and several other relatives left for that other plane of existence in the month of November. It is true each death brings another journey through grief, and is one is as unique as the individuals who died. I have employed many of the same techniques to deal with it, but nothing wipes it out, nothing makes me forget that pain. Perhaps being louder is the answer, or at least a reprieve. Iron Maiden eh? I don’t think I have ever listened to that particular band, but I am open to doing so. Hang in there my friend.
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Thank you. I guess the loudness is probably more important than the actual band sometimes.
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Yes, for sure – keep living loud!
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My grandmother used to iron everything, I mean EVERYTHING(towels, sheets, shirts, pants, whatever? While watching game shows. I don’t iron. But I do like it loud when things are tough. My favorite is Celtic rock!
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I’ve seen Runrig. Does that count in your books.
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Everything counts. The only thing I don’t listen to is foul language rap. Just can’t get into it.
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No Rap has passed me by.
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When faced with profound grief, I think you just need to do whatever gets you through the day. And honestly, I’m impressed with some of the coping mechanisms you’re using! I’m so very sorry for your loss…..
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Thank you
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You can keep your Iron Maiden on your own side of the pond, thank you! Leave me with my Al Green, Stevie Wonder, Ray Charles, Kenny Rogers, et al. Hugs, dear friend!
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Can you keep Trump on your side of the pond as well.
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I’ve been trying, for every time we let him out, he embarrasses the heck out of us! All you guys have to do is stop inviting him! Your Queen is too kind, and now he and Boris and Nigel are likely to form a cozy little friendship. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
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It’s an hideous thought
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A life time of memories. A life time of saying goodbye. A life time of experiencing love.
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So so true.
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