Every few weeks this rose blooms and every three months we get a large envelope
One thing life doesn’t prepare you for is dealing with the admin side of bereavement. It’s a seemingly never ending slog. Trying to wade through treacle. Form after form. Call after call. Ever decreasing life circles of bank, utility firms and lawyers. Eventually you end up losing the will to live. Which is rather ironic when you think about it. But finally you just about get there. Most of the stuff is sorted. Yes there are a few loose ends but they can either wait or just be left dangling there.
One of those dangling things here is the regular large envelope. An envelope still addressed to my partner.
When she was much younger, my partners parents bought her a life time membership to a national heritage trust. The type of thing which gives you free access to many sites across the country. If you can afford the one-off lump sum they are a great idea. Unfortunately not a great idea if you die young. No argument here as the condition is crystal clear
Rights and benefits shall cease on death and no refund shall be made….
So I really should have phoned up and started the process of cancelling the membership. I can’t transfer it to our Son. But then a thought. Ok Son won’t be able to use it to get into any places for free. But every three months they send out a magazine all about history and nature. Every year they send out a members handbook listing many of the countries best sites and a comprehensive list of what’s on for the year. That’s something. Son will get some some benefit from his mum’s membership. So we are leaving this one dangling. Once the large envelope makes it out of the week long garage quarantine then son will get a free history magazine. Curtesy of his mum and his grandparents. Which is so nice.
Yes not finishing a job is sometimes the best strategy.
This is wonderful Gary!
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Thank you.
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I can imagine how it always feels like a knife in your heart when it arrives. But as you said, there is a good side to it and still, you (your son) can make use of the gift.
Btw. I love your rose photos. I have quite a few rose bushes in my garden in several colors. I love roses! And guess, which one most: the white ones!
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It’s not too bad these days. My partner loved those the best. I tend to live any that I don’t kill off.
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LOL! To tell from your beautiful pictures you made it to quite a few meanwhile 😁
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Still a few.
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Cool 🌹
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🙏x
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Well, despite what the sight may do to you… it brings you something. Kind of double edged but a gift.
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Definitely a gift. x
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That’s lovely 😊
What a great thing to come out of not getting round to doing something!
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It’s a real gift.
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Sorry you are unable to visit for free, but what a loving gift for you and your son to cherish
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It really is.
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I love this! It’s a gift from his mum and grandparents. That’s lovely! 🥰
And a good reason to leave well enough alone.💌
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It so is. x
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Fully agree! Might as well just not finish that job for a few decades!
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Best way.
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You’re right. Sometimes it does pays to postpone things.
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Exactly. Let’s take our time.
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Yup!
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🙏
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Sounds like the right plan to me. It is a gift from his mum and grandparents that keeps on giving!
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It really does. These connections are so important.
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That’s a lovely idea. You may as well make the best of it rather than losing it.
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It’s something to hold onto.
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Does it make you sad when that envelope comes? It made me sad to read that. See, my brain needs some rewiring to focus on the positives. I think you’re doing better than I am in that area by turning something that could be a sad reminder into a sweet gift for your son.
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We each have our own way. No right or wrong way. Just our own unique way. It so did at the start. I would just look at my partners name on the envelope for hours. Very sad. Now I learnt to quickly smile then move on. Under the name is a gift.
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What a moving post. Bittersweet and looking forward at the same time. Thanks for sharing it.
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Thank you so much.
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Something for him to enjoy and which gives him a link to his mother.
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It really is.
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Is it not transferable to the next of kin?
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No. Ends on death, whenever that happens.
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So good to keep this going
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It’s a little link with a different time.
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Good for you…
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Thank you
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