So here I go again. Starting another grief year. This will be the fifth one. Grief is not something that suddenly stops. It changes, it evolves but it doesn’t leave you. It becomes part of you. It’s part of me. It will always be part of me.
I remember back in 2016 thinking Life had made a terrible mistake. The roles should have been reversed. It should have been me that went first and my partner became the single parent. I must admit I had the same thought a few hours ago. Why her and not me. For whatever reason it just happened that way and I’ve had to get on with it. But it doesn’t stop me thinking that especially on the anniversary. These days I realise that I will never know the answer. It just happened that way. The key is make sure I’m the best parent I can be for our son. My partner would have done exactly the same thing. Being that parent will not happen if I am constantly inward looking. So let’s put that question back in its bid for another year. Let’s get on with the fifth year of grief by focusing on the here and now. Yes it’s the fifth grief year but more importantly it’s the fifth year of being a single parent. That’s got to continue to be my focus.
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One word: Superdad. You’ve got this. Bring on year 5. Stay out of the rain.
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Bring on year 5 and new dreams. You stay out of the rain as well Tina.
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Okay! 😀
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Have a wonderful weekend. 😀
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I forgot… love that photo. 😃
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Thank you Tina 🤗
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Yeah, it was nothing. 😀
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It was much more than that. 😀
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Thoughts and prayers for you on this 5th anniversary! I can imagine those painful questions you wrestle with, but you are right about keeping your focus on the here and now. Prayers for continued strength and sunshine to brighten your days!
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Thank you. You look after yourself as well.
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You are welcome and thanks.Will do. 🙂
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🙏x
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Life never gives you the answers as you think and yet here you are answering the question in what you do every day.
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That’s so true.
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You can’t do anything else except be an awesome parent to Hawklad. It’s who you are, Gary Kermit Superdad!
You, SO got this! Unless you get drummed out of town for having red roses 😂😂😂💌💌
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Yes red roses are a risk here. xxx
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Love makes us grieve.
And love too helps us rise and walk even in grief.
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That’s so right.
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And a great single parent. Len has lost 2 daughters, and a granddaughter, and he says It should have been me also.
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Thank you so much xx
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Sometimes it helps to know others are hurting similar to you 💔
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It really does. You often feel like you are alone in these battles. x
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🖤🖤🖤
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Thank you
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Hugs and prayers for you.
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Hugs to you. x
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🤗
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🙏
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Sending hugs and prayers, stay strong!
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Thank you, I will.
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Hugs!
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Thanks. Hugs to you.
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Continue to evolve because it makes us feel alive…even when we don’t. ❤
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It really does.
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❤ ❤ ❤
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🙏
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I never know quiet what to say, so I put hearts in, instead,lol
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Hearts are great. They make me smile. ❤️
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Fifth grief year but also entering the fifth year of being an absolutely brilliant Dad, doing it in your own and succeeding. On top of that, you are an amazing and supportive friend to so many. X
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Thank you Claire and you are as well x
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
FOR WHAT IT’S WORTH…IT TOOK ELEVEN YEARS, OR SO, TO GET BEYOND MY MOM’S PASSING. WE DO HEAR YA, MAN!
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Thank you. It takes us all different times.
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Life does!
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🙏
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CONDOLENCES—FROM ALL OF US—MANY LONG-DISTANCE HUGS.
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Thank you so much
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Praying for your—and your son’s grief. Don’t try to hurry it.
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Thank you
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YA KNOW….HAVING A LOT OF SYMPATHETIC WOMEN FOLLOWING YOUR EXCELLENT BLOG SURE HELPS, A LITTLE.(AND NO, I’M NOT JEALOUS!) 😀
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It really does.
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;D 😀 ;D :0)
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My prayers are with you, it is never easy to go forward remember God walks with you in this journey and he will give you the strength.
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Thank you
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You are doing an amazing job. You are entering the fifth year of awesomeness 🙂
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That made me blush and smile. Thank you my friend x
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Periodically grief asks to be acknowledged and if you remember anniversaries, that’s when it happens for sure. Obviously you will never forget the day. I wouldn’t either. XX
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Thank you. No I won’t. xx
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May this one be easier in so many ways
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Thank you let’s hope so.
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Beautiful post. I too thought the years would make my grief subside. The years don’t relieve my grief, just makes me stronger.
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Thank you
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Hugs to you.
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Always helps. X
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I, too, am into my 5th year. Just boggles the mind how fast this time has flown. I hope you find contentment and joy again my friend. No one knows more than you and I just how short life is. We have to grab it by the throat and ENJOY. Sending you hugs from Wisconsin.
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It’s funny some days it feels like yesterday,other days like a lifetime.
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Amazing how the mind helps us cope………
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It is
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Hmm 🤔… well loss never leaves you – it will etch a mark on your heart and mind … sometimes I can replay how I lost my others .. certain thing will trigger me to remember those moments – that call, my heart.
Sometimes I wonder if things happened the way they did because I needed lessons? And they needed to be beside me differently?
I also needed to have a lot of change but I didn’t know that… and all of it was so difficult… but I’m pretty strong now. I have my moments of grief too… ie mainly because I still miss so much, I wish I could have just 5 minutes back
Those who are left behind always have to learn how to cope with the loss. We are human – we feel… nothing wrong with that
I wish she wasn’t taken from you… I know you loved her very much. That is beautiful in itself.
You will never have an answer as to why not you. But it wasn’t – and you still have life.
The greatest thing you can always do is honor her memory and never forget ❤️ raise that boy amazing for her – you seem to do that very well ✌️
I love to see your life come back!! It’s like a breath a little bit. Like for a long time you held your breath, and finally inhale life?
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I love that last line. It’s perfect xx
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Thank you x
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You are definitely on the right track, Gary. You’re right. Grief does not go away, but it does evolve and fade to a certain degree so that you can carry on with life and even find joy in life. And you have a precious boy to life well for, too. That in itself is a blessing because you do have to live for his sake, a very good reason to live fully.
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Yes it’s all about following our own paths and seeing how grief changes as well.
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