It’s always lovely to get cards through the post. Well almost always…
That dreaded card dropped through the letter box today. Don’t need to open it. Just look at the name on the front. My partners name.
This is now the fifth Christmas since the world changed. Over that period virtually everyone who needs to know, knows. So THOSE cards are rare. But not rare enough. When I see my partners name above the address my heart sinks. It’s a reminder of what is no more. It’s also a sign that somebody still doesn’t know.
The card is from someone who clearly knew my partner well. The message on the card makes that clear. This person also sends a Christmas and Birthday card without fail. The first name rings a bell but not a clue on the surname. Not a clue on the sender address. The postmark doesn’t give any clues. I will go through the address book (again) but my partner would often use nicknames rather first names. Needle in a haystack.
It’s amazing how one little card can take so much wind out of my sails.
Such a tough one ๐ค๐ค
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It is x
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xx
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So sorry! It sometimes is tbe litlest things that tug the heart the most! I hope you can have something pleasant surprise you today.
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And the ones you canโt plan for.
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This is so sad Gary, and when you have no return address, there is little you can do.
My Mum received flyers for my Dad for years after he died and our neighbour is still receiving mail for her late husband too. It hits home and she is not handling it very well. I’m worried about her.
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Itโs the last thing she needs to deal with.
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It is a sad reminder.
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It really is.
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Hugs
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Hugs to you my friend
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Thanks.
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So sorry to read this Gary. Take care …
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Thank you x
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Sometimes smallest things trigger feelings you don’t want to think of….it happens…
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That is so true.
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I still get them from businesses, after 7 years
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I do. Given up trying to get these to stop.
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Me too.
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It sure can be like a gut punch. Good luck finding the right person! ๐
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Thank you x
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Your partner is clearly loved and remembered by the sender. Hold onto that thought.
In the spirit of a Hallmark Christmas movie mystery, this is the moment when the leading man contacts the sender, connects/reconnects with a loved one from his partner’s past, and makes a lifelong friend ๐
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Yes, it is! Thinking of you and your son this Christmas!
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Thank you so much.
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No return address? We have to put return addresses on post here. Too many people doing bad stuff through the mail.
It sucks to have something like that happen… but like your other commenter wrote, it’s a nice reminder of how many people besides you and Hawklad cared for her. How many lives she touched. It’s small pieces of her love and kindness scattered around.
Sending hugs!!๐๐๐
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She so did. xxx
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Oh, I so feel for you as I still get letters for my beloved late mother who died in 2009 and they go through me.
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Iโm sorry
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Thanks. She certainly wouldn’t want me to be upset about it so I try and turn the other cheek for her to smile at me!
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Thatโs the best way sometimes
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More times than not for me. ๐
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Shocking. Life is intensely cruel and often seems ultimately pointless. Unless like Camus you can revel in its absurdity.
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It really is.
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That’s so harsh and I am so sorry, Gary. It doesn’t matter how time has passed, cards or other reminders are still so very painful. I am sending the biggest hugs and lots of love. On a positive note, it is a sign of how well loved and liked she was. It’s incredible that the friend doesn’t yet know though, in these days of social media I would expect everyone close to her would know.
Sending a prayer up for blessings of peace and comfort for you. xx
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Thank you Carol xx
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You’re so welcome, my friend, hang in there.
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I will x
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โค hugs x
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Hugs to you as well x
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Thank you – I love hugs ๐
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Donโt we all. x
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My mum has an Aunt, that, even though, she changed back to her maiden name over a decade ago. There’s this one Aunt, who wont change it.
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Always one ….
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I’m sure even junk mail feels like a missed step in the darkness.
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It does somedays
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Such a shock every time
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I know
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I am so sorry for your loss, qnd you are so brave in your writing! Thank you for sharing your grief and sharing in mine.
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Thank you so much
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Sad. Warm Garfield hugs
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Hugs. ๐
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It’s awful when that happens, especially when it is someone young as your partner was. It’s another of the stresses of Christmas….I’ve had letters to tell me that a person died, which made me feel awful (I had no way of knowing) and then there are people who have got divorced, also bad. After so much time, with no communication from your partner’s side, you would think at least the person would add a return address, or maybe they are afraid to? But it makes it so hard for you.
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Just got to hope that they will one day.
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I meant to say, what a stunning photograph!
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I know there’s pain…but I might try to look at that as a blessing. A message from your partner on the other side. Telling you all is well! Its all right to CELEBRATE Christmas and said birthday. Cherish them! Embrace them! Knowing your partner is in a peaceful place.
One Love.
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Absolutely
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Thank you
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4 1/2 YEARS later, I am still getting things for Nick. It doesn’t hurt quite as bad because those credit card companies mean nothing to me. Still makes me catch my breath on occasion.
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It really does.
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Oh Gary. Thatโs hard. Hopefully other cards have managed to put some wind back in your sails too. Xx
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They so have xx
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Hope it gets better with time ๐ค
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Fingers crossed.
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The card has been sent with good intent. The day is nearly upon us. Make it a good one for yourself and your children.
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Thank you. You as well
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