Most definitely a nice change today….

So the end of term school report has arrived. When I say arrived I mean an email appeared informing me that the report was available online. After 3 hours of trying to get the app to work finally a unique set of parameters opened up the report. Fifth cup of decaf, third chocolate bar, complete packet of biscuits, the clock striking midnight and me threatening to hurl the laptop out of the window. All this worked.

So is the report a surprise! Sadly not. It’s as expected.

  • Just grades, target grades, performance and behaviour grades. A mass of numbers and seemingly random letters. Absolutely no narrative from the teachers.
  • No information on areas of weakness or plans of action.
  • No test scores. No work feedback.

Almost feels like one of those automated factory production cards. Cold, faceless, uncaring. So what do the numbers and letters tell me. Hawklad is still seen as low attainment. The work I’ve seen in a number of subjects not reflected in the expected final exam grades (another 2 and a bit years time). A subject where his last teacher told me that he knows the subject better than the teachers is marked as just about squeaking a pass. Another subject in which he regularly gets 100% on the online teaching app tests is listed as an expected subject fail. A handful of subjects listed as expected passes (most just the lowest pass grades). Bizarrely one of which is a subject the school want him to drop as they are not prepared to provide any additional help. No mention of why some of his expected grades are falling. No mention of what action is needed to reverse that.

No surprise at all really. For children like our son the approach is to set the bar low. No need to invest in potential then. Then any results at the end are seen as a real bonus. Evidence that the education system is clearly working 🤯. What that really means is too many are left to stagnate. Too many are let down by the system.

So yep no surprise at all.

36 thoughts on “No surprise

  1. I really do sympathise and even now I can recall feeling frustrated, angry and as though it was hopeless trying to get anyone to help Sam when he was younger. When his secondary application to the only suitable school was turned down; we lost his appeal despite over 50 pages of supporting evidence and written reports. The educational psychologist was a chocolate teapot and we took the decision not to send him to the high school they offered cos I wouldn’t allow him to take any more kicking.

    He had already been diagnosed but it carried no weight and nobody really did anything to help because he wasn’t problematic enough. Unless a child is an exceptionally gifted or very challenging behaviourally, the rest are lost in the middle of a thousand faces.

    If he’d smeared shit all over his face, set fire to cats or been aggressive and disruptive in class, the support would all be there within a year or two of starting primary school.

    I remember crying most nights not knowing what to do, how to help him and if we’d already missed that window of opportunity. It is soul destroying, you feel utterly abandoned and start believing there is no light at the end of a tunnel but it’s there, Hawklad will find his way and what you’re going through now will be a memory before you know it.

    You’ll wonder how the hell on Earth you got through all this shit but you will because you did 😀

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  2. Frigging hell, Gary. This makes me want to write to your school and protest. Not that anyone has ever listened to a word I say. How about if all your blogger friends deluged them with letters? It’s absolutely ridiculous!!!

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  3. Dad, as a former art and geography high school teacher, it hurts to learn about the ways our schools–it’s happening here in the USA, too–are unable to attend to students’ needs during the pandemic. More so, for those with special needs. Blessings ❤

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  4. I am beyond saddened by this, even if, as you say, it’s no surprise. Your son has so much potential it is a crying shame it is not recognized. I am so sorry for this deplorable situation, Gary. It’s got to be so disheartening. Yet, many geniuses of the past were also written off, so to speak. It truly disgusts me. Hang in there, Gary, sooner or later something wonderful will happen that will turn it all around for him and for you. Hugs.

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  5. Do you fell like naming and giving details of your lad’s school? (I’m guessing it’s in the US)
    Here in NZ, it’s almost the opposite – daily reports of a child’s outcomes (read behaviour n learning} during a lesson.
    ECE teachers have to write a “Learning story” about, say, six to ten learner in their centre (ages infant to five) with photographic evidence or even video!
    As an “old school” teacher, I am perturbed (putting it mildly) when I observe, or parents tell me, some of the scenes that take place.
    Your sadness/frustration makes me wish I were still qualified to teach, and well enough!

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  6. Wow! Not only makes me sad and angry for all the children I knew were suffering pre- pandemic in the US, but opens my mind to the reality that is is a global issue! What the answer is, I am not sure. But a massive awakening needs to be happening and I believe is, that existed before the pandemic, but “the virus” is shining a real bright spotlight on!
    Best wishes! Keep believing in him!! The most important part!! And if by “opting out” you mean homeschooling, I hope he does too!
    Best thing I have done for my 14 year old daughter.


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