It really is ok to talk about mental health. So why does it still feel so hard to do it? But talking is so important. We need to make it routine. So let’s talk about my depression.
I’ve been struggling with mild depression for a few weeks now. Actually maybe much longer. Feeling hemmed in. Hemmed in but kinda thankful I’m not physically meeting people. Low confidence and minimal self esteem. More hesitant. Finding routine tasks much harder. Difficult sleeping. Feeling emotionally worn out. Finding it just a little harder to smile.
It seems to have stabilised. Not getting any worse but no signs of improvement as yet. I do have an old supply of anti depressant but I haven’t used them as yet. So I’m plodding on. Trying to avoid the news and taking each day as it is. Trying to focus on the positives in my life and there are some wonderful ones. Need to remember that.
Yes it’s good to talk.
Thank you for sharing God 🙏🙏 bless you
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Thank you.
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I know a hug is not the answer, but I will send one anyway.
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It works so well. Thank you
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Sometimes talking helps one realize that people care . . . and/or they are even going through the same thing.
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It really does.
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Keep talking. Please. We’re all here listening.
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I will
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Fellow dad pulling for you. Keep your head up, friend!
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I will sir
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I compare my state of mind as teetering near the edge of a deep abyss. This covid situation is maddening. Keep writing my friend. It’s one outlet. 💕🇨🇭🇨🇦
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That is how I feel. Got to keep pulling each other back from the edge. xx
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Hang on my friend, we all are with you. ❤️❤️Sending lots of love and a warm hug.
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Thank you ❤️
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I can understand this. Why don’t we just all about mental illness? My daughter has depression and all this chao in the world doesn’t have her in a good place. We talk every day and get together when we can but she needs more than just at me. She is on something it helps a bit but what she could use is a professional to talk to and right now there is very few. So like I said I understand.keep trying to do things. Even if it feel like to o much. I have a bit myself as well and focusing isn’t always easy I think that’s why music has been helping ng a bit. Ever need an ear email 🤗
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Some counsellots will use Zoom
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It’s really common
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Sadly there isn’t any counselor Avitabile to accept any new patients.
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No not at all
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So sorry
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Thank you😊 what can you do.
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Dang that picture is gorgeous! I’m feeling some sky envy. My sunset is a bust tonight.🤷🏼♀️
I keep going out and looking though.
I can’t know *exactly* how you feel, but I’ve fought with the Depression Monster👹 many many times myself.
I’d be happy to lend an ear if you want to talk off line… I think you have my email.
It’s good to talk/write about it! No shame, and you’re SOOO not alone. Sending HUGS!! wishing I could hug you for real.💌💌💌
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I do as well. xxx
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The depression monster is a real jerk. If there is anything I can do to help, please let me know. Sending a big hug!
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Thanks Robyn. That means a lot to me. x
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Keep talking! Meds do help but please don’t take old! Call doc, and sometimes it takes a few weeks and then you realize, hey, I’m not on the edge anymore. I had to get more meds with Covid. Every day I go up and down (not manic), but happy — I can laugh and smile.
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Will do
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One part of my mind knows it’s okay to discuss my mental health. Another part is ashamed to discuss them. On the flip side, I would listen all day to anyone who needed to talk. My brain is an asshole.
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Yes I feel that as well.
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I wish I had a solution to offer you. All I can do is assure you that you are most definitely not alone.
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Thank you
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It is definitely good to talk about mental health and also ask for help. I hope you do that too as you are also carrying the burden of helping your son too.
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Thank you x
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You’re welcome 😍
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I don’t think you are alone in these feelings. The world is a bit disillusioning at the moment. More than a bit, actually.
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No I’m not.
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It’s always good to talk and speak to people, even if it is just a blog post =D ❤ I'm seeing my Dr tomorrow to make a mental health plan. Everything's fine, I just want to talk to someone without feeling like I'm burdening them, but they have said to me in the past. Even writing something, without showing anyone, can help as well?
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Hope it goes well for you. You look after yourself x
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You most definitely do too sir!
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Writing does help if you can get your emotions into it
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It is such a release
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Yes, it is very good to talk. It’s important to reach out. Definitely understand how you feel. Sending you hugs and prayers, my friend.
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Thank you, sending you hugs as well. Hope it’s going well at home for you my friend.
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You’re welcome and thank you. Yes, it’s been going ok. Pretty quiet, really. Kids are thrilled to be back to school and I am working out what I want to do with myself. Inspiration is a bit low, which is ironic considering I have more time back. But, trying to be patient with myself. 🙂
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It’s hard to fill the time when it’s just you involved. I struggle. 🙏
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Hugs, I am with ya! Good to talk. Keep talking. It helps. ❤
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I will xx
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Keep talking! Please!
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I will
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I’m glad that you feel that you can share this with us. Yes, it is good to talk! Big hugs to you Gary and keep on talking!
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Hugs to you Anita.
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It is hard to talk cos unless you are some kind of exhibitionist or narcist, it is never easy to spill your guts. Remember the small steps the little things, the tiny positives. And keep talking. And yeah stay off the news. Apart from that itself, the armchair comment wielding brigade destroy your faith in humanity. You have friends here, my friend.
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I do have friends. Good friends xx
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Of course you do. Lots.
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Depression is high for many. I’ve battled the grey-eyed monster myself. I’ve taken antidepressants, too. Do you journal? Have you ever done “giveaways?”
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No I must start the journal again. No I haven’t done giveaways, going to look that up.
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Old Native American custom… You write your frustrations and burn them. There is some suggestion of including some alcohol while you write and, writing in low light. What you write should not be read back, lest you take the bad emotions back in. With mounting frustrations and compounded anger, many giveaway sessions may be needed. I’ve had to do a lot…lately.
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I do like that. Will try that. It’s like a method I heard where you imagine putting a problem in a box then moving it further away from you
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Hi Vic! Have missed hearing from you! Good suggestion about the fire. I find just letting the flames mesmerize me as I watch them dance helps too!
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its always more difficult during the winter… especially now, with corona and all restrictions. And yes, I think, to share it or write it down is helpful.
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It really does help. Hope you are well.
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🙂 yep… me? Exhausted after food-shopping for a week. Damn, shopping now a disaster, not fun at all
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It is such a disaster now. It’s just something you try to avoid now.
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It is indeed. Keep talking. You know my feelings about depression – reactive and endogenous.
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I will sir.
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I will respond later – I have to go to work ✌️
Don’t be sad … is gonna get better…. ok I will be back way later – after work ✌️
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Yes – I would say avoid the news… all the news does is upset people with horrible stories… and media can also be biased – even though they try not to be.
Also… I found social media was also hard to have in my life… it was too much pressure for me and I’m not into that ✌️
Yeah I find social media also a mental health issue. So I just avoid that also.
When I avoided social media – I could breathe, and I got my life back in silence ❤️ I know it sounds odd or whatever – but it helps me to stay away… too much for me.
And then… what else … tv … social media… if you don’t avoid, them then limit them
And I really can’t figure out why you have little confidence or self esteem? But then I work so… you don’t see anyone and that makes a difference.
Your life got flipped upside down. But look you have held it up, and you have a good sense of humor, ya know – you are very hard on yourself.
When was the last time you did anything for yourself with no other intentions? I’m just curious?
Also – bubble baths are a thing – do not laugh and you can get “manly” bath bombs … It will just relax you hopefully if you can find time to take a bath 🛀
I know it’s hard without much interaction. ☹️ and also given your whole situation.
My life does this thing where omg my world is crumbling … and I worry… but then it will turn out ok, and I will be fine lol
I have had some pretty intense awful moments
Moments where I did know how I was gonna make it through everything … like sheer panic
Like you somewhat… I got robbed of life ? So … the one thing I always think of and remember is that
Life can kick me down do whatever … and while I did change a little – I went silence and just keep to self and sorta hide away – it lets me cope. ✌️ I do ok. It lets me breathe
You do for yourself and how you are able to cope. These are intense times so you cope how you can.
Don’t let anyone or life … take your spirit away!!!
And I think you should rock it… you are an awesome father, that is admirable and quite hot… and you have held things together all on your own!!! I know we have to do things on our own, but you were just learning how to be a single parent after losing spouse (and yes I’m gonna call her that cause essentially she was and it’s just a piece of paper – Whoopie)
But you were just learning your way with that – and it got flipped again with this… so ya know that is not an easy task to keep together like that
So that makes me think, you be strong in situations where strength is needed and would be good to lean on – that is also hot.
So … you are your own worst critic lol
Dude… own your bad assness!!! ❤️✌️
Seriously all of that is pretty deep!
You do need to remember to do something just for yourself … think of something special you miss that you want that is doable or getable lol ✌️
I am sorry you are sad. But you are safe so I am happy for that
Be easy on yourself. You are a good guy.
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Bubble baths now that’s an idea. It’s off somedays I need the silence but then others days that silence is like a prison sentence. I do need to find those things that enrich me and then make time for them. Thank you my friend ❤️
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Well you may joke about bubble baths but they can melt stress – don’t knock it
(The best bath bombs are from “Lush”) they will help you relax and smell really amazing
So take that silence when you need to… that is important.
And when silence feels like it’s closing in… that’s when you see what reserves you have.
Hmm… do you have friends you talk to or anyone you feel comfortable to turn to?
That can help – just a simple phone call. Breaks up that silence and maybe reenergizes a little?
But I am not sure that you do, and I don’t think you are overly comfortable sharing the deepest darkest things lol… you seem little private in that area to me.
So if you don’t have that… come here. Is interaction and reading or venting really does help!!
I always write things just incase someone is going through something similar and can relate and might need that relating …
I know when I had cancer … I had people who would tell me their stories and share their photos of what I was about to enter and what was going to happen to me.
Initially when they shared their photos with me – I was mortified … not only were these women sharing photos of their breasts with me – which is really personal to me – but they also gave me photos before and right after surgery
I was very uncomfortable and overwhelmed.
But they did that so I could not panic when I went though mine – it is helpful – tremendously!
So anyway… I always write stuff so maybe someone relate ✌️ (because people did that for me ❤️) you never know who’s life you touch.
Anyway… well you make sure you do something for yourself – do something or get something for YOU.
You have to remember self care and don’t put self down – self care keeps you strong to carry on…
Do you remember “the Sims”?? Lol … if they got depressed they wouldn’t do anything? Lol … you had to make them happy first lol
Is same idea … if you are depressed it makes it harder to carry on.
When you do self care then you make you happy so you can push forward little more and have something happy
And then don’t be so hard on yourself because that can be mentally damaging too even if you joke.
I always think what you put out into the world – is what is mirrored. What comes.
So if you speak badly – it weighs on your soul.
Whoever said “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” was very incorrect – words can hurt. Even if you say them yourself so be aware of that.
Music is really good too… I know you are a hard rocker lol – you are way above me on that one
But don’t forget music and music can both soothe your soul and also change your mood depending on what you listen to
If you listen to sad depressing songs you will be depressed and cry
But if the songs have a happier tone, you are happier? You can change your mood if you can get lost in music?
I love music for that reason. And others but music is incredible. It can be anything
Turn on the music when the silence gets too heavy.
For me … to stay strong I NEED laughter!!
And like with how I react with peace … I like it, I want it, I chase it, I make it ✌️
I do the same thing with laughter. That is how I survive and how I keep my spirit strong
I turn to comedy – I lose myself in that – that will give you a soul break
When you work in an office – usually you have breaks (hopefully 😒)
But you don’t have any breaks really … so you are gonna have to find what will keep your soul strong and alive – doesn’t have to be comedy… that is just how I do. 😊
I need it to offset the bad stuff – “balance”
Anyway – hope something I said helps.
Don’t overwhelm yourself and do what makes you comfortable.
You seem lost in trying to learn how to handle everything by yourself – you forgot yourself – and with everything being so overwhelming … that sets in on you.
One lesson we are all learning is to rely on “ourselves” because we lean so heavily on others
You have to be strong within yourself … this will teach you how to do that if you let it
Like that movie… Castaway with Tom Hanks … Wilson made him happy and kept him sane (ish)
You have to know what will work for YOU and that takes time to find.
Also never worry about what others think. Right now we focused on making you not so silenced and sad so … you are in a learning stage of how to handle… you can not care what others think – you need that peace to think for yourself… so do that too
I don’t mean not care about people – I just mean don’t worry about peoples judgements – who cares cause no one walks in your shoes
And I tell you what I think with things but that is only my opinion so … you are always free to have difference or not agree
When you start feeling sad … come here… maybe make a happy post of a happy memory from the past? Childhood or otherwise / you toilet paper rolling down the road was hilarious ✌️
So anyway do that stuff (in my opinion) it is not easy, and life goes up and it also comes down.
But you do pretty well – you just forgot yourself too long 😘
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I won’t. I use to love them after work. Then a Toddler came along and I got out of the habit. I must start again. I so appreciate the time you take. Means the world to me. x
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Yeah lol… the Sims were fun!! You should totally do that!!! I bet it would make you smile 😊
When I would want them to do something like go to work … but they were too tired, hungry and had to pee 🤨 … so they would do a mad angry dance shaking their fists, and then pee on the floor 🤨😄😄 … and then not even want to clean it up lol
Yeah you need to watch your stats ✌️😘
Oh of course ❤️ because I know that sadness and I know how I am with things so if I have something to say and can help – I always will 😘✌️ thank you for saying ❤️
Keep staying safe and dont pee on the floor! Lol 💋 I had to sorry it fit perfect and just flowed ✌️ we will help you not to pee on the floor ❤️✌️😄
Yeah you have to go play Sims again!! But still come back here lol … don’t leave us for Sims lol
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Not played Sims in years. It was fun. Bet it’s changed.
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Hahaha… I know! I have not played in years either lol … I can’t even remember how long it’s been lol
It was fun though.
I do wonder what their world is like now!! 😮 lol
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Need to get playing.
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It’s always good to talk. The way things have been for the past year, it would be amazing if you were not depressed. I have depression too, take medication for it, but it does break through. Sometimes I just start to cry and it would be pointless to try to choke those tears back. Like grieving…you have to get through it somehow and you do. Holding it in will erode you from inside. we are hear to listen/read. Feel better Gary XXX
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It’s getting through it somehow.xxx
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I get that.
It’s the crap going on in the world today.
Don’t let the bastards get you down.
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I won’t.
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Been there with depression Gary. It sucks. As you conclude in your post, focus on the positives.
Write things out, you don’t have to post it here, but just getting it out of your head and down in print helps. Don’t let it eat away at you by keeping it shut inside. It can be self destructive.
It’s a shitty world at the moment, and many feel they are on their own for various reasons. I’m with Boo…… don’t let the bastards get you down.
Always here Gary.
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Thank you. I won’t let them. x
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Make sure to eat and keep warm.Cold can cause winter depression,I read that
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It sure can.
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Keep talking. Keep turning off the news. And make taking care of yourself a priority. It’s such a slog right now. Hugs to you.💕
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Hugs to you Collette xx
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I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It is fantastic and I hope helpful that you are able to talk about it.
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Thank you. Got to keep talking. No good bottling it up.
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I’m sorry you’re feeling like this – that’s really rotten for you. It’s so good that you feel able to talk about it – well done for being strong enough to be open! Have you ever thought about doing some phone counselling? After I had to leave my job because of my pain condition I really struggled. SInce then I found some counselling via phone which has been very helpful indeed. It might also help with the isolation you’re enduring too. Just an idea – just forget it if it’s not right for you. I hope you feel better soon.
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Hugs. Depression is an ugly mistress. She takes and leaves you hallowed out inside. I get it. Hugs Hugs Hugs 🙂
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Always good to talk! It just makes us feel worse keeping things inside. Sending a (((hug))) across the miles! And prayers which know no distance! 🙂
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Hugs to you x
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So many people are rooting for you, and are here for you Gary xx
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It’s so kind and uplifting xx
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Please to talk and you have got positives on your life. Hold onto that 🤗
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I will xx
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I hope so xx
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Do you at least get a chance to talk to your family since you can’t see them?
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With two of my sisters every few weeks or so on the phone.
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