The sun setting on another day. Another day of putting some things off.

Was it really 2016 when my partner died. Doesn’t seem like 4 and a bit years. But here’s the thing. I can’t work out if that time has dragged by or gone much quicker. 4 and a bit years just doesn’t seem right.

But 4 and bit years it is. That’s a long time putting stuff off.

The ashes are still sat on a cabinet with a view of the garden and fields. Not been scattered yet….

Her cds are still in a there in the corner of the room. They won’t ever get played. Doesn’t seem right to play them and we had completely different music tastes. Hawklad never plays cds and shares my music tastes. One day I should move them….

My partner’s photo albums are sat on the sideboard. I started sorting through them back in 2016 but stopped…..

I did quickly take her clothes to the charity shop. But then I found a few more items. These sit in the airing cupboard. Sat there waiting for me to decide what to do with them….

I sorted through her work papers. These are now sat waiting for me to have a bonfire to burn them. These are sat on the floor next to the desk. Just doesn’t seem right still to do that yet…

I could go on but you get the picture. Whether 4 and bit years seem like a long or short time. It just shows that loss and bereavement takes time. Each persons time will be unique to them. For me it’s definitely a long term journey. It’s also about Our son as well. What works for him. Long term means that we can take my time. Do it at our own pace.

43 thoughts on “Putting off”

  1. There’s no timescale for this stuff. My mum wrote a lot before she died but I still don’t feel I can face reading it. That was 30 years ago. But I’ll wait until the kids are older because I can’t go to pieces on them.

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  3. Nothing wrong with taking time. My mom gave us a lot of stuff of Dad’s the other day, but any time before…seven years it’s been….any time before that, she wasn’t ready for us to take his books or anything. We got lots of “We’ll see” type stuff. This past weekend, though, she was ready, and that’s fine. So you just take your time. When you’re ready, you’ll be able to, and it will be okay, inside and out. xxxxxxx

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  7. Gorgeous sunset!! I’m very pleased to see you admiring and photographing the magic liminal time of sunset!!😁💃🏼

    When it’s time, you’ll know it. If it doesn’t feel right, then it isnt. There’s no rush.
    You got this!!💌💌💌

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  17. I have a shed, a garage, and a 22′ car hauler full of car parts yet. I have a 1952 Lincoln Capri to sell yet. I have a 2006 Ford Fusion I can find no one to put together so I can get rid of it. I have THOUSANDS of toy Matchbox cars, magazine ads for cars, repair manuals, wiring specs and a bunch of old time radios yet. They are still sitting there 4 years and 7 months later.

    Is there EVER a right time?

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