It’s been another blue sky Yorkshire day. If only it was warm. Really cold but definitely hot under the collar day.
An email from school definitely livened up the day and focused the parenting mind. In a nut shell the email said
Today and the next lesson in Citizenship will be about sexual awareness and consent. It’s a legal requirement. Hawklad is not in school. We can’t do online education for this one, its deemed inappropriate for the subject. So tough. Over to you parent. STAND UP AND DELIVER. We can send you one video on consent. BEST OF LUCK
Grand……
I tried to rack my brain back to my school days. From what I can remember the sex education lesson involved a nervous make teacher mumbling for 10 minutes then he showed a video. As it was a small TV the class had to huddle round for a sight of the action. After just a few moments a clip of a baby behind delivered was too much for one lad called Donnie who was stood on a bench . He throw up over those in front of him and then fainted, spectacularly crashing backwards to the floor. The lesson was abandoned and that was it. Not much help.
I can’t revert to the classic ‘better speak to your mum about this’. So had to man up…..
How did it go. Badly. After flailing around for 5 minutes under the most forensic questioning I did the decent thing and reverted to YouTube videos, of varying educational quality…..
I can’t remember this being in the patenting terms and conditions I signed up to…
Thank goodness for Youtube, eh! I hope you are relaxing now, yes so many things tje parenting handbook didn’t tell us!
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Saved me
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You’re doing so well x
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Sounds like a huge difficulty, but youve done so much to overcome it x keep answering questions, and dont be afraid to say you dont know 🙂
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That’s the secret. Don’t try to be someone your not❤️
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Exactly x
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Thank you my friend ❤️
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Very tough lesson for a parent.
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It was
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😅😅
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford.
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Thank you
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I DON’T ENVY YOUR JOB!
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I know.
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but AM ROOTING FOR U=! 😀
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Thank you
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That is a tough lesson for sure. I was always happy that the school kind of broke the surface of that whole conversation so when Bob or I went in it wasn’t so difficult. Maybe with all Hawklad’s religion schooling about sexuality things might go easier? My fingers are crossed for you!
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Thank you Robyn. Hope your smiling.
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I remember having to sign some form of permission or acknowledgement slips when my son’s class was going to be educated. I think my husband was actually glad he wasn’t going to have to explain and so was I. I could only imagine that conversation knowing my husband. I’m sure you managed fine.
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It was ok
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If it was about consent and you didn’t see it, try the cup of tea
Its this one
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Brilliant. “More tea vicar?” ☕️
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“Arhh and what would you say to a cup?”
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I so miss that show.
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I love my brick! 🧱
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They are useful
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Oh yes..
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Tea works great in lots of explainations. Brexit for example, a comedian came out with a great one using tea
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I think I found it, thank you for giving me the heads up:
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Welcome 🙂
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Funny
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It does
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I love this!! Unconscious people don’t want tea!👏👏
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Don’t make them drink tea
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That’s a good one.
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I am going to show it to my son when he is a wee bit older
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I am on Monday
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I’m sure you did awesome! You have a fantastic relationship with Hawklad and the communication is excellent.
I started talking to the girls when they were young. Very basic stuff, and just kept answering questions.
Just keep answering questions. And Googling😉
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Or hiding behind the sofa. ❤️❤️❤️
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Schooling is weird these days. and I am not talking about having to do it online. If it’s inappropriate to show online, what makes it appropriate to show in class?
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I’m all for parents teaching their kids about this stuff, but it’s like, lol
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A bit of warning and help would have made it easier for this muppet. x
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hehehehe
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I know it’s mad.
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Sex didn’t exist in my childhood 🙂
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I was 9 when I first got the basics. Mum knew she would tell me about sex and periods before school did, as she believed it wasn’t the school responsibility and should be parents responsibility.
I was 9 first knowing because it all started after hearing the word rape on news at 10. As soon as rape was said for a third time in that report, I asked mum.
It was also around this time I started reading a story mum had written for me, which I felt may have been from mum’s experience of warning me to never go off with a stranger, even if they are looking for a missing dog.
So after rape was discussed I then asked mum if the story I read, happened to her and it did. So mum told me more after asking questions.
What happened to her as a child, still affects her to this day.
I don’t ever remember taking home any permission slips for particular chats on periods at junior school, or sex educate at comprehensive school.
I don’t remember much about sex education at school, than watching a video and then a demonstration by a teacher on how to put a condom on a banana, which he was having a little issue doing that one.
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Bollocks. This CAN be taught online. It’s not the best way, but then online teaching as a whole isn’t the best way and it’s just a compromise option until school can resume. If you need any help, please let me know.
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They said it was not appropriate. Thanks I may well take you up on that if next week continues like this week.
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Oh yes, sorry, my comments were aimed at them, not at you! Sorry if I sounded as if I were saying “Bollocks” to you! 🤣 I’m sure it’s easier to teach this face to face. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be done online if the alternative is not doing it at all.
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No I knew who it was aimed at. No problem at all.
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He was probably more embarrassed than you
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Probably
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The tone of that email from school left a lot to be desired. I would send them a video on how to speak politely, how to be a partner rather than an Authority Figure, and how to be civil.
I truly cannot believe the slavish way your schools work in England. There is no sensitivity to differences in individuals. Some children are more ready than others for such lessons, this is not a one-size-fits-all situation.
I am so old sex was not even menrioned in school except when there were no teachers in the room. Mostly we learned an out sex in the streets, or banned books. That was not a good situation. Sex education can belong in the schools, but I think it would be proper to have an expert in child psychology bring it in.
As an addiction counsellor I had to go into schools and tell kids about alcohol, tobacco, street drugs, and prescription drugs. I always let my students direct the conversations by letting them tell me what they knew before I told them what I was supposed to teach them. It invested the kids in the conversation, and prepared students for what was to come. The cirriculum as it was written was too dry. Teachers refused to teach it on their own. I cannot imagine why your teachers don’t refuse to teach sex education on their own.
I learned things from my students every class, and adjusted the way I presented what I was supposed to teach accordingly. I was doing ten classes a week. A teacher does a class, what, once a year? They don’t have the experience to adapt.
Sorry, Gary, this is one of my pet peeves. I got in trouble with my superiors for what I did, but my ratings were double that of other people teaching the same classes the cirriculum way.
Kids are not machines. They should not be treated that way.
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But they are seen as assets not individuals. Pink Floyd were right. Here it’s going backwards. The curriculum is strictly controlled by government. They have even decided to tell teachers which are acceptable learning resources and which aren’t. They have now threatened any school if they don’t stick to the government’s religious education policy then they will be investigated.
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Another atrocity! The people have become sheep!
And the wolves are in charge of the flock!
Where is a Karl Marx when you need one?
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It’s as if increasing numbers just accept the message fed to them.
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Oh, my.This is an awkward business at best. I don’t think any of us are ever fully prepared. But, I find the best approach is done prayerfully and honestly. I was actually very pleased our school pulled us as parents in partnership on this matter. The kids had both sessions at school and questions to bring home and have us answer. This subject, tough as it is, is one I think it is too important to leave to trust a school alone to teach properly, in my opinion.
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Yes that’s what we did in the end. Definitely the best way. Hope it’s going well.
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Good.🙂 I am doing ok. Kind of a quiet day, which is definitely not a bad thing.
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Having no children, I really can’t comment on what is right. I only know that I “guessed” the facts of life and persuaded my mother to confirm when I was 10. Maybe having an opposite sex sibling helps. By now someone ought to have worked out a good way to explain!
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Many did.
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I’d be inclined as ask “what do you think you know…. and carry on from there!
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Yes that’s exactly right
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As a single parent raising two sons in Brazil, I found excellent opportunities to address sexual relations when various incidents were portrayed during the Brazilian novellas we watched together.
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It does help.
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You’re a busy man—what a beautiful sky.
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Oooo what lovely photo! The top of the blue where the colour is deepest is my absolute favourite colour – so gorgeous( and rare in your neck of the woods!!!)
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Thank you ❤️
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😁😁😁
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Not a fun topic to have to get into! I’m sure hawklad had a load of questions for you too and some of which you were cringing at. Lol. 😀
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