Evening trip to the coast. Park up at Filey on the North Yorkshire coast and then head north for a couple of miles along the cliff tops.

Destination… Filey Brigg

That was Plan B….

We had initially planned to head into Filey and walk along the beach but…

As we headed towards the beach, Hawklad froze. There were a couple of teenagers sat on a bench eating chips and he thought that they were possibly looking at him. That was it, he couldn’t walk towards them, he had to head away from them, as fast as possible. So with the beach path blocked, he pulled this hoody firmly over his head and we rapidly headed in the other direction along the cliffs.

He has always struggled with the sensation of being looked at by strangers. As a child he would frequently hide behind trees to avoid being noticed. Now he makes a real effort to dress in such a way that doesn’t draw attention to himself. He likes the comfort of his personal space and he definitely needs the comfort of blending in, being invisible. That’s why he can survive football or concert crowds, he feels blended into the background, unseen with people completely focused on other things. So he can sit reasonably comfortably in a crowd of 50000 yet be frozen to the spot by just two teenagers. Thankfully the only eye contact after that was with angry looking seagulls….

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  5. Hi there,

    I read your post and I want to express empathy and understanding for your experience. It sounds like you and your son had a challenging time at the coast. Dealing with such difficult situations can be overwhelming, but it’s clear that you are doing your best to support your son. Please know that you are not alone in this and there are people who understand and support you.

    Take care.

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  8. A beautiful view and way to kick off the weekend, Gary. Sorry for the uncomfortable encounter for Hawklad and hope you were all able to enjoy the outing despite of it.

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