As bizarre as it may seem, but we did have trips which didn’t involve Switzerland. And as hard as it seems to me, trips that happened before Hawklad. A time before I had digital, so it’s been time to try out the scanner.
France about twenty years ago, a hot summer in the Loire Valley.
The Loire if I remember right is known as something like the Garden of France, a perfect description. In our experience, it’s also ‘if you want to see a glorious Chateau, Loire is the place to be.’
Chateau de Villandry is almost 500 years old and in those years they have been working on the gardens. Really really really working. We came here twice and I’m sure with more years, we would have come again and again.
You know those meetings, the meetings where TIME becomes irrelevant. In fact everything seems irrelevant. Everything goes into slow motion. You do that neat shark trick, where they switch off half the brain but still manage to swim. I had switched off more than half my brain and was still able to hold a pen, randomly nod and prevent gravity pulling me off my chair. The words just drifted by. Then like a half sleeping shark smelling blood in the water, I was jolted awake.
Did he just say ‘you need a HUG’.
Panic setting in, this was the oddest looking kind soul, this was a bad tempered, grumpy, ex rugby player who looked like the only thing he had tackled in 20 years, was copious amounts of FAST FOOD. In his own words – a man who looks like a garden shed.
Two emergency escape options open to me, sprint through the fire door (but that went way too close the the garden shed) or dive through the window.
But I stayed put and quietly whispered ‘yes I probably do, the last one was probably 7 years ago’.
This produced a puzzled look from my colleague.
‘Are you saying the van is 7 years old, I thought the van was that older. Well anyway I know a garage which could probably fit a replacement Wheel HUB way cheaper than the main garage,’
HUB not HUG.
Good job I didn’t crash through the window.
Really Good job I didn’t act on impulse and take him up on his initial HUG offer.😂😂😂
Twenty odd years of living in rural parts kinda makes you accustomed to power cuts. The other night seemed no different. The flickering of lights like a Hollywood Ghost Movie, then everything goes off. Usually the lights come back on within a couple of hours.
But not this night.
This night, the lights flickered and then a huge explosion from somewhere across the fields. Then blackness.
A recent innovation is that the Power Company now sends out text messages to say when the power is likely to be restored.
This night, the first text was as expected.
“Specialist Teams are on their way”
Then
“Specialist Teams are on site, power is likely to be restored by 11-30pm”
11-30pm and no lights….
“The work is taking longer than expected, power likely to be restored 12-30pm”
12-30 became 1-30 became 2-30 became 3-30.
“A large equipment failure has resulted in serious infrastructure damage….further updates to follow as soon as we have more information.”
The only lights apart from the house candles are the work team head torches and vehicles zigzagging across the muddy farm fields.
Morning breaks, more activity along the power lines.
7-30, 8-30, 9-30, 10-30, 11-30.
Finally in the afternoon the lights flicker back on. Lights not quite as bright as usual. A huge temporary generator has been dropped into the village. It’s a noisy village for the next few weeks.
The dog walk reveals what’s happened to the poor farmers field.
Apparently technologically speaking the local infrastructure failed. In normal speak, a local sub generator EXPLODED. It was old and didn’t like getting flooded repeatedly.
Well at least the sheep still have the field to themselves. No sign of the previous nights mayhem.
In the quiet my mind wandered. Watching and listening to the latest rain storm to crash into our little bungalow, sat on a little Yorkshire Hill.
How can I get Hawklad for a holiday somewhere. How to do it without ramping up his anxieties, how to fund it, where to go. I kept going back to previous holidays, holidays before our little world changed. Coming to the same phrase in my head.
Can never be the same again.
The logical approach is to go back to our former Swiss trip base, Spiez. I know how to get there, the ways that would work and not work for Hawklad. Ways to avoid queues, and crowds and anxieties. Familiarity is important to him, reassuring. Spiez would offer that.
Plus it is a wonderful base to explore the rest of Switzerland and even Northern Italy .
Plus it is one of Europe’s most beautiful bays.
BUT
Things have changed. It’s not 3 or maybe more now. It’s just 2 of us. So many memories there. Maybe so many ghosts round every corner…
Much to ponder, but it is one stunning place. Always will be a special place for us.
The weather isn’t playing ball but the flowers have had enough, they are starting to bloom.
Just need the sun now….
It might be a bit of a wait for that ….
Excessive handwashing,
Excessive clothes changing,
Excessive need for reassurance,
Excessive need to order and arrange things,
Excessive need to check and recheck things,
Excessive hoarding.
I was told by a Paediatrician that OCD was one of the potential anxieties that we should look out for with Hawklad. As a toddler he was obsessed with lining toy animals and cars in increasingly long straight lines. Apparently that can be a forewarning of later life OCD and an early flag of Autism. The Paediatrician said for unknown reasons there is a link. I think he said that 2% of the population can experience severe OCD, for Autism the percentage jumps to 20%.
Whatever the reasons, whatever the numbers, OCD has a huge impact on daily life, it ramps up anxiety and stress levels. It does with Hawklad. If anything the OCD grows. Sadly up to now the advice and support with OCD can be best described by the phrase
Best of luck with that….
It’s often down to individuals and families to try to chart a path through these never ending storms. Trying to find ideas, anything to try.
Yorkshire is kinda stuck in weather, stuck in cold, grey and damp. It’s not just here that gets weather like this, even in my favourite place, Switzerland. Sometimes we would wake up to grim alpine weather, yet it didn’t stop the family adventure. Waterproofs on and off we went.
Spent about twenty minutes here without seeing another car. Bridges are so much nicer without traffic….
When we returned from our trip out, it was TV time. Hawklad selected a fine comedic movie….
Kramer v Kramer.
The comedy came as the end credits rolled.
“Dad, did you notice that Dustin Hoffman became a decent cook after 8 months. See single parent DADs can do it. You have had 8 Years and you are getting worse. It’s just not fair….”
Can a Dad sue his SON, it’s just over 7 years not 8…..
Hawklad’s Mum had a bucklet list of places she really wanted to visit. She was blessed to tick off quite a few locations from the list but sadly a few still escaped her. One such place was in Switzerland….
A small lake called Blausee found near the river Kander in the Bernese Oberland. A deep blue lake set in stunning surroundings which is completely fed by underground springs. As a result it is crystal clear and you can clearly see the bottom of the lake, even though it’s 12m deep. It’s apparently MAGICAL.
Photo from My Switzerland
Frustratingly we were frequently in the area but never quite made to the lake. It was always one of those,
We will get there NEXT TIME…..
TIME does run out, so if you have those places to visit, don’t let time runout on them.
At night he won’t go out in the garden unless someone goes with him. The times I’ve stood outside in the rain waiting for the 85 month old puppy to cock his leg….
At the weekend one of the houses down the lane was having a kiddies birthday party, the way to the mayhem being flagged by balloons. Our dog walk goes past that house and down that lane. I had to pick him up and carry him past every single balloon. He is scared of balloons….
He is also scared of tractors which is a bit of a pain in the rear end, living in the country, surrounded by farms. He’s petrified of the Vet, one of my sisters, scissors, washing machines, the coffee machine, next door’s wheelie bin and scalextric cars. But to be fair to him he is not scared of cats, some dogs, horses, sheep, cows, cars, fireworks, postmen and anything offering him cheese.