Muddy paths everywhere.
At this time of year this should be a nice, dry way through the local woods. Not this year. In fact part of the path is closed off as it is flooded. Early morning runs through here are currently a slide FEST. Hopefully it can dry out as the bluebells will be out real soon, maybe they can swim.
As my muddy legs got even more muddier this morning, I was pondering on something a work colleague had said in a meeting.
‘Daughter will be going to University September next year. That’s it, most of my full time parenting will be definitely over. She wants to go to St Andrews, then travel for a few months, then get a job in London. So in 17 months we get a spare room and maybe I can finally get that pool table….. Just need to get her through her driving test in November.
A clear timescale. Yes things might change, but still plans. It feels quite ordered with clear milestones.
I don’t get that feel, never have with this parenting gig. The way forward is hopefully full of so much potential, but it’s filled with so much uncertainty, so many unknowns, so many complications. When will he be able and willing to leave home. How much support will he need, where can he get that support from. Even have no idea about if and when he will be able to start driving. So much uncertainty, I’ve given up trying to plan or put in milestones. Just got to keep being there as best as I can for Hawklad and see what the future brings.
And YES, I ain’t ever buying a pool table. It will just end up being another shredded, pet hair disaster zone. I can definitely predict that fact.
A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. 
Hugs.
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❤️
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“Pet hair disaster zone…” 😂 I know what you mean. As for milestones… I don’t go there anymore. Just take one day at a time. Sometimes amazing wonderful things happen too…
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Took me 10 minutes to get the pet hairs off one chair this morning….
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it’s good to be realistic, your friend may find things don’t quite open up the way he expects them too. Many young adults find themselves back at home after university these days. At least that is what is happening here with the high cost of living.
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I was talking to a person in the village, her daughter is coming back home after uni, she can’t afford get a place even with a job.
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Sadly that is all too common these days.
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Unfortunately yes
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Our cats keep clawing up anything with legs and sleeping on every surface, even with my moving them out to the garage (they will be outside mousers while it’s warm). I had no idea they were so destructive.
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We haven’t bought any new furniture in ages, it would just get shredded as soon as you turn our backs.
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I believe it.
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Yet the cat scratching pole is as good as new, never used….
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😀 Mine always seems so puzzled when I redirect her to the scratching pole.
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It’s the look of disdain I get…
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I’m sorry that things are so uncertain and unpredictable. But I’m glad you have such an amazing attitude and handle it well, Superdad.
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Thank you Tina ❤️
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Yes, one day at a time is the way to go! And parenting is never over. It might change its style as children grow, but never over. Hawklad is so fortunate to have you. You all are going to make it! 💛
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Yes, just one day at a time. I love the old pearl of wisdom, just get the next thing right.
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