Blue Sky Yorkshire, if only this was the norm. Bonfire Night was certainly way more cloudy, way more drizzly. A few very damp fireworks, definitely way less than previous years. The only disruptive noise coming from next door’s mad Dog barking incessantly at the local Owl. The Owl sits on a tree overlooking the garden, and turns it back to the Dog. The Dog must get really frustrated at being ignored.

Hawklad loves F1, he has a real fascination for the motorsport. At the weekend we went to a talk by a former Team Principal and real character, Austrian Guenther Steiner. Hawklad loved it, especially as we got seats that were not next to anyone else, that really helps. If he feels hemmed in then it becomes way too stressful for him. If he feels stressed then he usually has to quickly leave. He has survived a number of rock concerts largely because of the combination of the noise, the darkness and people focused on the stage. This all adds to a feeling of anonymity, that’s the key. Plus he can move around to find less busy areas. He just doesn’t want to feel like he is seen.

This was all brought into stark focus after the talk had finished. Hawklad put his head down, hoody over his head. Out of the Arena, through the streets for 40 minutes, he never looked up once. Only when he got back into the safety of the car, did he raise his eyes and relax. The social side to life is so difficult for him.

31 thoughts on “Bonfire Night”

  2. It must be so painful to watch, and not be able to do anything to help. Just be there for him.

    I used to love cold, crispy Bonfire Nights with a bonfire on the beach at Seaton Carew. Probably because it’s my birthday. Nobody celebrates it here and I missed it the first couple of years, even though I know what a waste of money it is, and distressing for animals.

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  6. Keep taking him to places, because none of us live in a bubble and getting supplies means interacting.
    It’s hard to be the one that cannot face others (yet).
    It’s hard to be the one to guard that one from others (in the meantime).
    Preparing the one for the day when facing others is necessary is a very hard job, and Beloved, you are doing amazing Best to have back up plans and people to turn to, if anything untoward happens.

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      1. What you have to remember:
        He is there for him too.
        Talk to him about how others cope, then he might be able to remember them methods in times of need.
        Also, you could learn together First Aid and how to cope in an emergency.

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      3. As I go wherever I go
        You go wherever you go
        Hawklad goes wherever Hawklad goes and that’s the key.
        Learning all the different coping methods.
        I’ve got so many up my sleeve, but some I had to learn the hard way. Hope you find and learn together those that help, but knowing them in the back of our minds help. Actually, I think I will blog post ones I use or have used. Yes, that is what I will do right now (well at least one).

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  10. Sounds like this event was worth that little push for him! And your point about hoodies–Biff and Bash LOVE them, especially Bash. He will wear it all day if I let him no matter the temperature. I can imagine the comfort, having that little way to hide from the world. xxxxxx

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      1. It really is, like in spaces with lots of people–school, for sure. Oh, and especially after we give them haircuts. They go through a period of protecting their heads at all costs. 🙂

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