A cold, wind swept day. Definitely two jumper weather.
So it’s not quite sunbathing weather here. We did sit outside for a while. That’s with winter coats on while holding hot water bottles.
While outside we talked. Well when I say talked it was more about trying to reassure Hawklad. He was worried, really worried. April 1st and he had forgotten to say ‘white rabbits’. In Britain and also I believe in North America there is a tradition that saying ‘white rabbits’ as the first words of the new month brings good luck. Pilots had a similar superstition during the last war. Saying that phrase as the first words of each day apparently helped provide protection during the daily upcoming flying endeavours.
Hawklad has been doing the ‘white rabbits’ thing for a while now. I think he picked it up from me one time. I’m a bit annoyed with myself as I try to avoid Hawklad seeing me with any superstitions . Well this month he forgot. I would never give it a second thought but Hawklad was spooked. He takes things very literally. That can be a common personality trait with people with Aspergers. So I tried to reassure him but rather unsuccessfully. I will keep working on that. But it’s so difficult for him. More things to worry about. Life is so complicated…..
Not sure whether it will help or not, and I’m not sure where it comes from, but I found this: If you forgot to say “rabbit, rabbit” on the first of the month, but you still want to give it a try, you’re in luck. According to word historian Martha Barnette, you can say “tibbar, tibbar” (rabbit rabbit spelled backwards) and still be in the clear.Nov 14, 2020
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Sounds like the title of the Byron Katie children’s book to help kids with worry called Tiger-Tiger, Is It True?: Four Questions to Make You Smile Again.
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We have that.
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I like that
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Oh. Taking things literally really hurts. I’m sorry. 😔
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It does x
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White Rabbit? As in, Alice in Wonderland white rabbit?
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It’s being going for centuries I think. Something to do with lucky things keeping the witches away. xx
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I hope only bad witches! hehe
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I’m not sure they discriminated back then….all witches went.
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Yeah =(
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I can understand where he is coming from. Reassurance is the only thing you can give him.
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I prefer to question my own stressful thoughts for their validity. A lot of them haven’t stood up to the fundamental first one of “Is it true?” Sometimes it is the complete opposite instead.
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Is it true is difficult for kids like Hawklad. It’s has so many layers fir him.
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We might never know what/how another person processes the information of life, but that to be there while they do the hard stuff is kindness personified. It also counts for ourselves too, to sit with things, but also to distract out of the loops and notice the here and now with wonder of this place. 🐛 🦋
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It is x
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Oh noooooo! Poor Hawklad. Poor you. I know how stuck they can get, and Hawklad already so anxious. 😒
I’ve actually never heard of this one, and I know a lot of superstitions. Try the tibbar, tibbar. That will appeal to his logic and might help him get past it.
Or maybe wait a day or two and see how his anxiety does.🤷🏼♀️ Maybe dealing with this will help him with the overall anxiety.
Crossing my fingers for you🤞😂😂💌💌💌
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Yes going to try it xxx
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I hope Rebecca’s solution is a help
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It’s worth a try.
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Wait…..both you and Hawklad were outside? Outside? That is so totally awesome! He may have forgotten to say White Rabbits (which by the way I have never heard of) but he went outside. Unless I understood wrong. Either way it is okay to forget every so often and the Rabbit isn’t really arriving until late tomorrow so maybe he can fudge it today? Hugs to you both. 🙂
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Hugs to you my friend xx
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That’s a tough one. Hope you can find a way pass this ❤
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Fingers crossed
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I too forgot. My version is “Hares and Rabbits”. There is that thing about magpies too, but we don’t see them here, so I don’t do that anymore. I can identify with Hawklad’s worry….I am vaguely superstitious but I can dismiss it. I imagine it must be hard for him.
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Hares and rabbits. That’s a good one.
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I understand him questioning himself. But there is so much he is pondering about which has more room in his mind these days that it is only a natural consequence that he forgot. Maybe it can make him aware that he should start to worry less in order that he doesn’t miss the beautiful things he uses to love. Perhaps it can motivate him to concentrate more on the fun things.
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I hope so x
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I’ve never heard of that and sadly I am superstitious.. 😭
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Many are
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U know it’s silly. Wait, did you say you were?😊
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Yes.
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Okay I thought you did. 😊
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He is such a thoughtful boy.. I think that so predisposes someone to worry on top of the Aspergers. God bless him.. Hugs to you both. ❤
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Hugs to you as well ❤️
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I never heard of the white rabbits thing! I’m sorry hawklad was worried! Glad you could reassure him! X
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