Sat in a surprisingly quiet cinema, watching Despicable Me 4. I could hear Hawklad laughing, along with his fellow Minion Movie Goers…. I smiled then slowly an emotion swept over me. One I’ve had before in these nearly 8 years of single parenting but never this strong, this striking. Would she recognise his laugh, it’s been 8 long years, so much has changed.

His mum never got to see or experience this moment, all the moments. In 2016, when he was just 8, she left this stage. She has missed out on so much, the highs, the lows, the laughs, the tears, the struggles, the adventures, the family time, seeing all the great strides he has taken. Would she even recognise him now.

She missed so much.

Missed so much precious time.

I know the value of that now, I didn’t a few years back. Maybe that’s the thing about LOSS and BEREAVEMENT. You get to see the fragility of life and what is lost. You start to develop a better focus on the value of time and the pricelessness of the precious moments.

Lake Thun, Spiez, Switzerland

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      12. Truly, becsuse I had so ma y sibli gs, combined with the fact she had been in th3 hospital for months, it kinds slipped by. What hit me was my sperm donor not allowi g me to go to the feneral because my little brother and I were “too young!” With my sister telling me she was able to say goodbye to Mom at rhe gravesite, it made my forced absence that much more acute.

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  4. Remember, Gary, you are now hearing for her, seeing for her, and feeling for her. You’ve got it all under control. Your family is growing up. Time for some “Gary” time.

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  7. You experienced this all in a specific depth. Death teaches us probably so much, maybe in some cases more than a person could teach us during a lifetime. Because through death we begin to see everything from another angle. It may sound terrible in the beginning but if we can see the gift in what others left for us right though their death, the connection with them even deepens. At least, this is what I experienced over time.

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  14. We will never know what could have been, but we would NEVER wish something dreadful on anyone just so as we could be with them in person. Blessings of kind thoughts and peace wished for all suffering with even the whiff of grief.

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  18. This world here and the one beyond the final earthly sandbar often overlap. I believe our beloveds are part of our many journeys, more than we realise. As much as we remember them and keep them alive through memories, they will be a part of every walk through life here.

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