I wonder how many years these wooden poles have survived the North Sea….

Looking in the mirror most mornings, they have clearly weathered way better than me. The front one has even got more hair than me. I’m not jealous, much 😂😂😂😂
We’ve been coming here since Hawklad was just starting school. Always the same routine. Find a parking spot where you can see the beach, let Hawklad see how busy it is. Too busy for him and we drive off, no questions asked. If it’s quiet enough, we hit the beach. Sometimes we don’t even park up, if the car park is busy, the beach will be.
So how does he manage concerts and now a F1 race.
We have a routine. Always try to buy the two seats at the end of a row, the back or front rows are best. If those seats aren’t available, then we don’t go. It’s the same for the cinema, has to be the two end seats on the front row. Hawklad takes the end of row seat. Sometimes that’s not enough and Hawklad decides it’s still too much. There have been a few concerts, movies and a football matches where it just never happened, still feeling too crowded, just never felt right for Hawklad.
At Silverstone it was even better, 168,000 watching an F1 race. But we still were able to find two end row seats, with no seats behind us. Plus next to our two seats was a roof support column, three more seats missing. Hawklad found space amongst the masses. All we had to do is arrive really early to miss the queues to get in, let Hawklad get to his seat before the crowd mayhem started. Setting off at 3.30am sorted that out.
That felt early, too early. Probably one of the reasons I’ve weathered worse than those beach poles.
Still beautiful. A wonderful way to parent.
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thank you 🙏
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Because of claustiphobia I’m very particular about booking certain plane seats, although it’s a very long time since I’ve flown anywhere. I love your comparison above and yes, it can be weathering… but you’re a Dad who cares…. and you’ve a great sense of humour!
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thank you ☺️, planes must be such a test for you, they are so closed in.
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I remember asking you how he could attend the concerts – you didn’t mention the logistical efforts of getting him there. You have always been so attentive
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I think over time you work out what works and what doesn’t work
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You are such a good dad Gary.
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❤️❤️
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Just things you do… all good and sensible, I would say.
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all we can do is try ❤️
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The daughter has similar situations with her boy. Gabriel is now twenty five and far more capable to negotiate life. He has overcome many of the limitations imposed upon him. He even now works as a ‘trolley boy’ for a major supermarket. This is a boy who wasn’t expected to write his name. He now fluently speaks with shoppers and staff. What a joy it’s been watching him outsmart the naysayers! Just like you and Hawklad – it’s taken care, time and gentle parenting. I do hope you appreciate all the milestones… I’m sure you do. They are to your credit…
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every milestone counts and Gabriel has done so well, so pleased for him.
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I think it’s admirable that you and Hawklad have worked out a way to manage being part of such huge crowds, even if it does mean rising so early!
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yes the early starts are a test 😂
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That is a gorgeous photo! Thank you for sharing how you and your son navigate the world. It takes care and intention to love someone this well💛
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thanks Laura ❤️
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Those wooden poles on the beach don’t have to weather the storms that you have to, Gary. Amazingly inspirational how you make it work for Hawklad! 💕
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they still have more hair than me 😂 thank you ❤️
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😂 I love your sense of humour, Gary.
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Things change, people change and situations that are hard to deal with can sometimes just like that become okay, but also it goes that things that are easy, can suddenly also change into a no go.
I’ve been watching a few YouTube vids about how to deal with situations and a review of the etiquette of meeting people and the like e.g. Holding your hand out as you walk into the room of a new meeting and shaking three times, then one when you meet them a second time. Not like Trump who not only turns the shaken hand over to put the vulnerable side of the wrist of the other up, but he also pulls people towards him off balance! He is one manipulative XYZ
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Does make me chuckle when occasionally a world leader pulls Trump towards him.
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Oooh now that I’d like to see. Tables turned and him put in his place.
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The things you have to do! And how lucky is Hawklad that you do. xx
If he got stressed would he just walk out?
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he would either freeze or yes walk out. x
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Glad you’ve got a routine going! Sounds good to me and glad it works!
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it does add so much to a routine week
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Sometimes it’s all that weathering that leads to a glorious patina – in those timber posts – and you! Linda 🙂
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I think the weathering works better on wood than on this prune. 😂
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😅both wood and pruney-people are beautiful in their own way! xx
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I second Sadje’s comment. Really you more than such a great dad. You go above and beyond. That makes you a Super dad. It really does. We is very fortunate to have you. ❤️
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thank you Tina ❤️
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