In life you get so many questions. Good ones, bad ones, taxing, insightful, bizarre, left field, rude and downright stupid. I often find one response covers most of them
A big boy did it and ran away….
Then you get the questions you field which relate to your kid(s). The questions involving Autism , Aspergers, Dyslexia , Dyspraxia, ADHD, Bereavement, behaviour…..The questions from family, friends, parents at the school gate, teachers, health professionals and other children. So many questions and so often not particularly helpful ones. As helpful as losing your car keys in a crop field.
So let’s look at some of the questions we have encountered. I suspect this could end up rivalling War and Peace so I’m going to spilt this up into more easily digestible parts. So part one is the Autism and Aspergers questions. Here goes for some bizarre questioning….
“Do you want us to have him eat his food by himself now he is Autistic?” – A Teacher
“As he is on the spectrum would you agree to the council being approached so they could assess the risk of self harm” – A Teacher
“I realise that his performance and behaviour is really good but have you considered a Special School as he had Aspergers” – A Teacher
“Are you sure he has Autism as he seems very normal and is not violent in anyway” – A Teaching Assistant
“We have another child who is autistic would it be ok if we sit them together as it will be good for them. They can become friends then.” – A Teaching Assistant
“I recognise that he is very shy and doesn’t like speaking in front of others. But would it be ok if he gives a chat to to the class about being autistic. He can tell them what it’s like to be different. It will be great for his self esteem” – A Supply Teacher
“He seems very talkative for someone with Aspergers” – A Doctor
“He seems like he cares and shows emotions. That is so unusual for someone with Autism” – A Doctor
“He’s very likely to have self harm and suicidal tendencies as he grows up” – A Doctor
“Why are you bothering fighting for a diagnosis when we can’t do much for him. The diagnosis will just be a piece of paper.” A Doctor
“Shall I get a nurse to take him outside so we can talk about him without hurting his feelings” – A Doctor
“Is he gifted in music as many people with Aspergers are.” – A Nurse
“Have you seen the film Rainman. That’s all about autism.” – A Nurse
Unfortunately you come across Professionals who are clearly living in a different age or are just so underprepared to deal with kids on the spectrum. Not acceptable but it happens.
“My Son is having a party and I want to be inclusive so is it ok if I invite your son.” – A Parent
“Did he get it from the Vaccinations” – sadly more than one Parent
“Does this mean that he’s not allowed to fly” – A Parent
“It’s not so bad, they can be very happy and harmless really” – A Parent
“Are you going to ask School to not move him up this summer and keep him with the younger kids. Won’t he be happier with them” – A Parent
“Are you sure he is Autistic he is nothing like The Rainman” – A Parent
“At what age will he start to grow out of it” – A Parent
“Have you tried those drugs which cure it” – A Parent
“Will he ever be able to look after himself” – A Parent
“Because he’s autistic he won’t ever want friends will he” – A Parent
“Is that why he’s rubbish at sport” – A classmate
“Can I catch it off him” – A classmate
I will finish off with one that made us laugh.
“Do you have to use an inhaler, my brother does and he’s like him because he has asthma” – A classmate