Chair with a view.
Look behind and it’s not too bad as well.
Maybe a good place to spread some ashes one day. Back a few years I remember standing here. Standing here in the rain. An overcast thinking walk had suddenly turned wet. A sky not dissimilar to this one.
What was I thinking back then.
Why me. Why take Hawklad’s mum and leave me. She would have been the better single parent. Sometimes I still do. After loss, how many other utterly confused souls have had similar thoughts. Many I guess. But in the end, all we can do is walk those paths allocated to us, do the best we can. The rest will sort itself out in the end.
A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. 
Too true, we can only do what befalls us in life. And you’re doing a wonderful job Gary.
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Thank you Sadje 😊
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I have not lost so dear a person, but often wonder why I am the one getting things others would be better at having (children, spouse, etc.) I need the perspective of this bench.
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We all do. I definitely would join you in that bench. Don’t forget how wonderful you are.
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It looks like a lovely place to rest. You are a wonderful father!
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Thank you, I’m smiling 🙏
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“Walk[ing] those paths allocated to us” is actually the easy part, though it may not seem like it. Changing those paths to create a better world is harder, but better for everyone. It takes involvement, though. To walk the paths without involvement is to possibly waste one’s life. I know this sounds stupid, but, Be the Paths.
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I’ve walked past a few of those route changes. Can’t keep doing that
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Well, you could, but it will only make it harder to turn at the next off-road. And the more regrets that will start to pile up. Been there done that. Don’t EVER want to do that again.
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“But in the end, all we can do is walk those paths allocated to us, do the best we can. The rest will sort itself out in the end.”
Such wise words, Gary. The bench in the middle of the field is very lovely too.
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It is a wonderful place for a bench
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You are doing an amazing job! ❤ I don't you'll have to every worry about that ❤
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Thank you ❤️❤️
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The inevitable question “why”. We might deal better with everything and then again, maybe not. As you said… “all we can do is walk those paths allocated to us, do the best we can”.
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Ay up, ther’s eur profound bench if ivva ah saw ‘un.
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It’s the type of bench Leonard Cohen should have sat at.
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We walk paths ‘n when we gerr jiggered we sit ont’ bench, tek t’ weeight off o’ wee feet ‘n tek int’ view for eur while, is eur wonderful view, eur beautiful place, eur profound bench ‘m sure.
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It would be a very wet bench this week
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Maybe it’s better to change why to something like how or what’s next.
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I love that, Gary. That’s the attitude that keeps you curious for life and your role in it. Totally love that, Gary. Would you allow me to quote you?
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I have wondered the same thoughts. It’s hard and sadly never gets easier. Someday I’ll right about why I relate to this post of yours. Not a spouse but a dear friend who is not well… ♥️
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