We are fast approaching the anniversary of losing our Son’s mum and my soulmate. Over the next 3 years we have managed to turn things like birthdays and holidays into celebrations. Yes some tears but more smiles. However this is the one anniversary which remains persistently grim. We’ve tried cards, flowers, local trips to her favourite places, eating her favourite food, looking at photos, letting off a balloon with a message on. Nothing has worked for us in shifting a day of tears and loss into one of celebratory hope.
Call me cynical but I guessed that the anniversary would also coincide with a car crash of a school return. Sadly right. So let’s try something else. A big distraction. Take our minds off the anniversary. So this year we tried to find something like a really loud concert or something similar to do on the dreaded day. But no luck – we couldn’t find anything on the day. We found something on the day before but we just couldn’t afford it. A similar story on other adjacent days…..
So the next best option is tonight. Yes it’s not perfect timing (bit early) but it’s the closest thing to the day that we can afford. The crowd might prove a problem with our son but he wants to give it a go. Fingers crossed that it works out for our son and it gives us a bit of distraction to that rapidly approaching day.
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Tough situation. I hope you find something that works!
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Thank you so much
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I hope it went well.
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It was ok a sort of 7 out of 10 thing
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Each one is tough. Keep plugging away at it. You may not find the magic thing to do, or say..but you are making memories together.
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We have to keep trying.
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You never told us where you are going!
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Justin case it didn’t happen but now it did will do a quick post
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I hope it worked.on my parents death anniversary my brothers family and mine,we have dinner together and talk about them.swert memories as a homage to the love and irreplaceable bond
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That sounds great. We tried that but it didn’t work for us. We had a dinner table which was 5 which suddenly dropped to 2. That still feels so strange.
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All the best. The wounds heal but scar remains.
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They really do.
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I hope you both find peace
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Thank you
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Take care.
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HUGS!!💌💌
Whatever you do, you’re doing it *together*. I’m sure that’s the way she’d want it.💕
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Yes I believe you are right. x
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I love how your son likes to give it a go. He’s brilliant.
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It’s very brave of him it’s just so unnatural for him.
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It certainly is brave.
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It was of him.
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It certainly was very brave of him. But you both keep on searching for the right thing, never giving up. You two have such a great bond, and I am sure she would feel so happy at that
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Thank you. Yes I hope so.
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Here’s hoping
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Always hope
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Better not to depend on others to get through the day. No one can understand your grief the way you can but they may try to help and that’s not always a good thing🙁. Sometimes we need the distraction, sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we need a crowd, sometimes not. That’s just the way grief is.
I hope you got through the hours.
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So true. What works one day may not work the next day.
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Best of luck
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Thank you
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Reading this backwards so I have the great joy of knowing it was a success!!! Still smiling about it and Your idea of his Christmas present. Wonderful. You’re doing such an amazing job! You’re so beautifully conscientious. ❤️
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Thank you that’s so very kind of you
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I already read the outcome – and am happy with the result 🙂 Good job, Dad!
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Thanks again. Robyn. It did go well.
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Prayers to you guys. I guess there is no easy way to feel better, but I hope and pray that you all can find comfort and peace soon.
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Thank you so much
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Bit late, but better late than never. 😉
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True
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Losing anyone close is incredibly hard. My thoughts are with you and your son.
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Thank you so much
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