Another cold and beautiful morning. Doesn’t look like the expected wet and windy weather forecast.
Robyn on her brilliant blog was taking about someone who played Death Metal music during a gym session and yet looked so UnDeathMetally. I remember a few years back going into a HMV record store and trying to buy a Hardcore German Death Metal CD. The young guy at the counter looked at me then looked at the cd and said “this might be a bit heavy for you”. I managed to stop him before he directed me to either the Country Music or Dire Straits sections. Clearly I didn’t look like a head banger. I should have warn my Motörhead Tour T-shirt.
I remember another time at work when a particularly gruesome Salesman barged into the office and asked to speak to the Chief Accountant. When he was pointed in my direction he walked up to me and announced “you don’t look like a Chief Accountant” and laughed. In an unusually sharp response I came back with “you don’t look like a person with an appointment” and proceeded to ignore him until he sheepishly left.
But apart from these two moments ‘not looking like something’ has not been applied to me much in my life. Well apart from this year. It feels like it’s been open season on me. The following have all been said to my face over the last 12 months
– You don’t look like a vegetarian
– You don’t look like someone with depression
– You don’t look like that photo on your driving license
– You don’t look like your passport photo
– You don’t look like a boxer … the physio said this as apparently I had a muscle injury normally associated with boxing
– You don’t look like your best pleased
– You don’t look like a single dad … said to me by someone in the village
– You don’t look like someone who plays Pokemon Go
– You don’t look like an XL … No but is it a crime to like wearing baggy tops for training
It’s not just me. It’s a team issue this year
– Your Son doesn’t look like he has Autism …. said by a teacher
– You don’t look like a boy with your hood up you have girls eyelashes … this was immediately preceded by the longest and hardest Paddington Bear Stare by our son.
– Your dog doesn’t look like he’s partly Cocker Spaniel
– Your dog doesn’t look like he’s partly German Spitz
– Your dog doesn’t look like he’s calmed down
– Your cat doesn’t look like he gets much exercise
These were all said very innocently and are rather mostly amusing. Some you scratch your head and think what on earth is a single parent supposed to look like. Some are worrying – too many still assume that if someone tells a joke then they couldn’t possibly be depressed. Then there are the ones which are breathtaking. An educational professional demonstrating such staggering ignorance of Autism. It makes you realise what a long way we have to go as a society.