Loss is different for everyone, whatever the reason behind the life story. Each loss is unique.
It’s now approaching 5 years for me. The journey continues. Things change. Sometimes suddenly, other times gradually.
Memories.
One of the biggest changes over that time has been with my attitude towards memories. When 2016 hit I truly realised their importance. Time can be short so it’s important that you create as many memories as you can. But here’s the thing, my mindset was that was for me there would be no new personal memories. Yes there would be new ones but they would be about Hawklad, not stuff I had done. For me that was it….
That’s changed now.
Time is still a limited resource and memories are still important. But it can’t be just about looking back. It is definitely OK to create new memories. That shows that life is not just about survival. It’s about LIVING, even after loss. So yes I want to create new memories. AND there is no reason that the NEW ones can’t be just as good or even better than the old ones.
You just never know. All you can do. All I can do is give LIFE a CHANCE.
A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. 
Absolutely.
Enjoy making memories, and Love the ones you have.
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That’s the plan hopefully
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Bravo. Love your positive thoughts
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❤️
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Oh gosh, that’s the challenge. Memories for me, just bring pain. Making MY life is my only way forward, but feels bleak.
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Thinking of you
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Just over four years for me. I understand what you are saying. It takes a while and a few false starts I think before we really begin again. You’ve got this.
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We have got this
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Without a doubt.
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Yes. It’s wonderful when you are able to live again.
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Definitely is
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Great message. I recently took a drive down memory lane and I was surprised at all the memories that came flooding back in. Can’t wait to make some more!
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Really hope you do.
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🖤🖤🖤
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You’ll always have those memories in your heart and there’s always room for some more ❤️
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Definitely ❤️
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We all need to make memories. For our own mental heath and wellbeing. For our families. For the moment and the future. Small or large.
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We so do
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I think this is a very good outlook and a very good place to be.
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Thank you
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Giving life a chance sounds like a wonderful plan. I hope you make some beautiful memories. Take care of yourself Superdad. ❤
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I really hope you do as well Tina ❤️
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Good explanation of your journey. It gelps other people who are dealing with loss be kinder to themselves xxx
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Thank you xxx
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Well said, Gary. Now, to do it…
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I will try
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I know you will.
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I like to think that all my beloveds who have passed on, wouldn’t be able to “move on”, if I can’t be happy. It doesn’t mean we’ve forgotten them, because we have not. I believe they still want us to be happy, and succeed and most importantly keep living. I know that’s easier said than done some day though ❤
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I think they really do. x
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❤ ❤ ❤ I am like 100% sure they do ❤
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They do ❤️
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Yes . I have a whole series of “before this and after that” memories. One has to. It’s life.
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So very well said hugs my friend❤️
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Making memories is the creative side of life, as I see it and creativity seems to be part of the human spirit, no matter what.
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Definitely
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