Bereavement and loss changes everything. My previous life foundations came crashing down. As I sat battered and dazed amongst the wreckage it was just impossible to see clearly. All I could think about was what was lost and how on earth was I going to be able to function as a single parent. My autocorrect tried to change that to single patient – that works as well.

I’ve talked about the impact on DREAMS many times. In the rubble of my former life , dreams and hopes were extinguished. All I could see was nothingness. My dreams had been stolen from me.

It’s now nearly 5 years on. I’m still clearing away the rubble but a new life has started to be built. Here’s what is sometimes forgotten. My old life was far from perfect. It had many issues, many downsides. I couldn’t rebuild the old life if I wanted to. Yes for too many months I did try to do that. Finally I realised the reality. Maybe just maybe I could learn from the past and not make the same mistakes again. Maybe this time I could build a new and improved life. Dreams and hopes play a huge part in that process.

YES they are back. Back stronger than ever. Ok they might seem like pipe dreams. They might seem really unlikely to ever happen. But that doesn’t make them any less important to me. They are a key part of my rebuilding process. Let’s see where those wonderful dreams and hopes take me.

57 thoughts on “Dreams

  1. Hold fast to dreams
    For if dreams die
    Life is a broken-winged bird
    That cannot fly.

    Hold fast to dreams
    For when dreams go
    Life is a barren field
    Frozen with snow.

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  2. When dreams are appearing again, it is such a clear sign that the rebuilding process is already in a progressed stage. They are the ray of light that leads you again. How wonderful you said that in your post, Gary.


  3. I’ve been waiting two years to hear words like this, Gary. I’m betting Hawklad has been waiting even longer, whether he could express such feelings or not. Today is like February 3rd, the day after Groundhog Day. I look forward to hear about the steps forward as you take them. And don’t worry if you stumble and step backwards occasionally, that’s part of life. Once you are moving, it becomes easier and easier to get where you want to go.

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      1. Something will happen you will barely notice but it will set you into motion. It’s always been that way for me, at least. One day nothing, then next day things are happening, and I only see the change in retrospect.

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      2. Miniscule even. Unnoticeable to the conscious mind. So don’t bother watching for it. You’ll know once it has happened. Meanwhile, Hawklad needs to see Hawkdad out and about, communicating in person with others. All this quarantining and locking down cannot be good for him. Even if he says he prefers it that way.

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  4. I heard a sentence today that resinated with me, resenated, resanated, (come on, why can’t I spell that word) resinnated, it wibbled thoughts into focus (see, that works). Anyways, the sentence was: “Done is better than perfect”.


  5. I hope to many places that make you smile and laugh more. Keep dreaming Gary. And when you find that one dream that makes you smile and fill your heart with happiness can you share part of that dream with me. (Hahaha)hugs💜

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