One of the most frustrating thing about autism is that nothing seems to be certain. You can say the same about Dyslexia, Dyspraxia and ADHD. The stock reply to questions seems to be “probably”. It feels a bit like that old beer advert “Carlsberg, probably the best lager in the world ”
- Is Autism hereditary – probably
- Are environmental impacts associated with Autism – probably
- Are Autism and Dyspraxia linked – probably
- Will the behavioural aspects of Aspergers become more pronounced as he gets older – probably
- Is his Dyslexia linked to his Aspergers – probably
- Is ADHD linked to Aspergers – probably
- Will a coach or therapist help with Autism – probably
- Is a main stream education the best option – probably
- Could going to a special school help – probably
- Would home education be more suited – probably
- Will the loss of his mum have a long term impact on his Aspergers – probably
- Will he get any specialist bereavement counselling – probably
- Would educational psychologist be able to provide a tailored educational programme for our son – probably
- Will an educational psychologist assess our son – probably
- Could medication help – probably
- Could medication make it worse – probably
- Is Aspergers and Sleep Disorders linked – probably
- Could the use of a reading Scanning pen help with his Dyslexia – probably
- Could Occupational Therapy help with Dyslexia – probably
- Could Speech Therapy help with Dyslexia – probably
- Could the use of a reading scanning pen hinder any potential reading improvements – probably
- Will the use of coloured lenses help with Dyslexia – probably
- Have we now ruled out that coloured lenses will not help – probably
- Will my son get any additional help during his secondary school life – probably
- Are we trying every available route to try and unlock his full potential- probably
Probably, probably, probably….
Apart from the definite diagnosis everything else seems to have been on a probably basis. That’s frustrating for a parent as all you want to do is try and find the best course of action for your child. It’s more frustrating for the child as he or she tries to come to terms with life and the future.
But one thing is not probably, it’s not maybe, it’s definitely. When your child has had a bad day at school. When the parent is crying inside with the frustration of not being able to take your child’s sadness and anxiety away. When you need a lift.
The pets never let you down. They are our Ghostbusters our Captain America. Guaranteed to save the day and lift the spirits. They don’t need a proton pack or a shield. Just a few cushions will do the job. What a hero. Son and Dad happy again – probably for the rest of the day.