Sleeping feels a bit like a Jenga tower these days. Takes a lot of effort to get it going then it’s so precarious that the slightest disturbance and it’s over. Most days the effort seems wasted given the time the tower actually stands. So last night the same pre sleep ritual then all too quickly a random dream wakes me. That’s it can’t sleep. So at 4am I’m watching Deadpool 2. Not sure if It was the sleep deprivation but I found the movie absolutely hysterical. So by the time son was up I was ready to rumble.
I certainly have to rumble. The first signs appearing of son becoming anxious for the upcoming week and the return to the big bad world. I’ve given him the option of immediately pulling him from school. But he thinks he should give it some more time, even if it’s just for a few more weeks. He wants to see what school does with the class settings. Does he finally move up sets or is he again consigned to the bottom set. I must admit I’ve given up hope in the mainstream school system. It’s not improving any time soon. Kids like our son are going to continue to be labelled an inconvenience and consigned to the educational bin. I will continue to try and work with the teachers but movement at this late stage is unlikely. Homeschooling looks like the only positive call. So yes things will be really tight. Yes I’m going to have to watch out that I don’t burn myself out. But for me the homeschooling time has arrived. But it’s son’s education so it’s his call. So on Monday school starts again. So already the anxiety levels are starting to build.
So we need to rumble harder. Need to work harder on the fun. The smiles and laughs will be just that little bit harder to produce. So Project Fun needs to go into overdrive. Today we try a new game. The Trampoline Water Challenge. Let’s try to bounce while holding various containers containing cold water. Bouncing with a full washing bowl will be the ultimate challenge. It’s a challenge which is designed to get you wet. Very wet. If unbelievably I don’t end up drenched then it may call for a headfirst dive into the farmers field rain lake. Whatever it takes today.
If Deadpool wasn’t so naughty then this would be a really funny movie to watch. If you took out the unsuitable bits then I guess the running time would be down to seconds. So it’s a time to either watch a series of Red Dwarf or Black Adder. Or maybe it’s time to revisit Monty Python and the Holy Grail. All guaranteed to make him laugh and LAUGHTER is the only currency we are dealing in today.
When you do homeschool, the washing bin experiment sounds like Science class to me.
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It’s real science. Who knows where it may lead.
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Wow, that’s great. BIG decision! That must be a relief for your son too to know that he can keep trying, but if school fails him (again) he has the option of homeschooling with you. I’ve never seen any of the Deadpools but I have heard they are naughty funny. And that trampoline water challenge sounds like a lot of fun – hope you guys have a great time!
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Thank you Robyn. Yes Deadpool is not for the faint hearted. Painfully funny, does go way too OTT and does have some really dark bits.
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All the best if you go for home education. If you email me at bobjc88 @ gmail.com I might be able to offer advice and pointers for if you go for it 🙂
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Thank you Robert
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My daughter emailed me today, and said Isobelle is really anxious about going back to school. She has her GSCE’s to get through, then done at this school.
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No wonder she is anxious. People forget kids should enjoy childhood
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That’s impossible. Even at her sister’s 21st birthday dinner, she couldn’t eat anything.
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Which is so sad.
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But that’s the way it is unfortunately.
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It really is.
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Deadpool for the win! It does sound like that home-schooling might be the best option >.<
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I think it’s the only option left open to us.
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It kinds of sounds like it =/
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🙏
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I remember Evil Dead being pretty funny, not sure about the language…
speaking of language, Ben was NOT scripting when he said “I fucking knew it”🙄 that’s ALL Older Daughter and her love of the F-bomb.
RV always makes me laugh.
Will Ferrell movies are a little naughty, but very funny… Step Brothers, Anchorman, Elf (even though Christmas is over)
Good Luck with the trampoline and managing the stress until Monday’s big reveal.💌💌
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Oh I so loved the Evil Dead films. They were so funny and completely mad. Amazingly this Christmas was the first time we watched Elf. On a nursery trip the bus had to stop at some traffic lights. One little girl immediately shouted ‘f####g unbelievable, for F*** sake’. When they had words with her the kid said ‘well that’s what my mum says at those lights’. xx
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Good luck on the whole not getting drenched idea. However, drenched seems like it will make you both cold and produce the much cherished laughter… maybe from you too.
I agree the school system has much to be desired in anything much less equality. Good luck there too.
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Thank you so much. Dad getting wet is normally a sure way of getting a laugh. x
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Oh the things we endure for our cherished kids….a las we don’t think twice about our antics
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No we don’t. Well not to much later in life.
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You’re son is one fortunate kid. He has a hard working dad. I won’t even attempt to watch Deadpool. I know that it won’t be my cup of tea. Andrew has always been a big Monty Python and Black Adder fan. We both enjoyed Red Dwarf and Dr. Who. The first time I heard Dr. Who I questioned what he was watching. It didn’t make sense. I thought it was a crazy show. He got me to watch it from the beginning with him. That worked!
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These are great shows. It’s amazing that they still work today. x
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My mom found herself in a similar place with me regarding schooling – we ended up homeschooling from part of 1st grade to 12th grade. It’s definitely a huge undertaking; in fact it goes beyond education to a “lifestyle philosophy” (dear Lord that sounds pretentious, ah well). It’s also a completely irreplaceable thing to share learning, discovery, frustration and challenge with your child. I’m cheering for both of you.
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Thank you. Yes it’s such an undertaken. If you got your time again would you still do it that way.
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Yes. As it was, my mom and I got 12 years of discovering how to live and learn together. It requires an incredible amount of flexibility, commitment, and love from both parent and child. There are a lot of days that are pure hell, especially early on when you’re figuring out how to communicate. And from what my mom has said, one of the scariest parts as a parent is wondering if you’re singlehandedly ruining your child’s life. But there are kids who will never have fit into school’s mold without pieces breaking off. If you don’t have money, it’s the best way to help your child figure out those pieces, understand how to live with them, and understand how to share them with the world as a gift. Also – walks got us through. We walked everywhere (unusual in US) and it gave us just enough decompression time – be sure to get outside into that garden of yours, for your sanity and his! 🙂
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That’s great advice. That bit about ruining a child’s life is so true. It’s a constant worry.
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I’ve thought about it too after my daughter deals with so much bullying. It’s so sad.
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It really is. It shouldn’t be like this for so many kids.
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It’s truly sad.
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It really is.
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You have been burning the candle at both ends at least since your son started secondary school, probably before that, since the world changed. Please look after yourself or you will not be able to help your son as much as he needs.
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I guess we all kinda get used to it. Thank you.
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We do get used to it, it is how we get through the crazy pace of our first world lives. Now at the age of 73 I can tell you from my own experience and that of other people I know that lack of sleep can clobber you really hard, with long term after effects. The ones that scare me most are three people who had four hours sleep a night for years: Margaret Thatcher, Alison Holst a noted cook/ writer / TV show maker, and Father Felix Donnelly a noted rebel priest / social reformer here. All three of them had severe dementia by their early seventies, and our NZ pair are still alive. So please take care of yourself.
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Yes it can’t be good for you long term.
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Getting wet on a trampoline and home schooling. Sounds like a plan. Government schools are no good, even for the non-autistic. All brains are rotted equally.
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The kids just become canon fodder for the system. It’s system first, kids second. Not as if it’s producing a great world.
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Thank you!
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I miss Monty Python. I never watched The Life of Brian until 2 years ago.Cracks me up..last night though i ordered the entire boxed set of Kung Fu because i couldn’t find it anywhere online! Imagine! Looking forward to watching a childhood favorite, and probably laughing more now at the bad acting..haha
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Oh wow I loved that show. Never seen it since. So jealous. x
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I’m excited. I couldn’t believe that it was not online though..something about to being heavily purged
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I wonder if you will find it as good as you remember it.
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i’ll find out in a few weeks. Since they are on disc and i have a Mac air laptop, i have to watch them at home thru the blu ray. So, will have to wait for a night off..lol
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I bet you can’t wait. x
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Sleep is something I have the same problem with, so tired fall asleep and wake up in an hour to some noise. Then can’t get back to sleep. So frustrating… how about the Princess Bride?
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That’s an option. Yes just the smallest thing stops the sleep. Not much fun. x
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My daughter homeschools and it is great. They have outside activities that socialize them, and it’s so much better than our local high school. I wish you well and good luck! There is a lot of information here available to people who want to do homeschooling. If I could help, just let me know.😉
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Thank you. It’s just trying to find the best approach for son. I will work round that.
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I know you will! 👍
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Thank you
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I would so be up for trampolining with water!
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It’s great fun. Better in the summer I guess.
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Everything’s better in sunshine
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It does lift the soul.
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Have you tried those home remedies for sleeping like garlic/onions under the pillow stuffs? Dunno if they are effective though.
You are a great dad.
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Did try one remedy which just made my nose run. But your right should look at them.
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Please do, so that you can function better
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I will thank you
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Wishing you the very best of luck with everything. Look after yourself.
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Thank you so much. x
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Laughter is the BEST currency. Bo’s been showing Blues Brothers to the kids lately, which they love. 🙂 I agree about Deadpool–such a hilarious film, but no way for kids! We’ve not tried Black Adder with the kids yet, but they do enjoy Mr. Bean and some Monty Python. And I admire your courage for such a challenge–and your son! Cold water’s such a shock to the system, but if he digs it, good on him! My mom got the boys a fun valentine’s present of laser guns with targets. The boys love the guns, but the target’s noise scares Biff so much it puts him into tears. Still trying to find that balance of good and bad sensory input…
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It’s much fun but would be better in much warmer temperatures. He’s not got into Mr a Bean yet but loved Black Adder and Johnny English. The sensory stuff is such a difficult balancing act. Hope you are doing well.
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Oh, Johnny English! I’ve not tried that yet. I should check out library.
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It’s basically Mr Bean like gags. Very funny.
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Sounds like your plate keeps getting fuller. Take care of yourself, too. Do what you must to unwind enough to be able to take care of your son.
Meanwhile, I am rooting for the both of you. Smaller miracles have happened; maybe school will actually be different now. Who knows. Good you’re letting him try it out and making decisions while standing by. Again, best of luck to you ❤
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Thank you so much. xx The unwinding bit is so important. If and when we go down the homeschooling route then current releases like running will be so curtailed. Need to rebalance that.
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Hope the day has gone well!
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It’s been ok.
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Sorry about the sleeplessness. I hope that gets resolved soon. The trampoline game sounds like a lot of fun if the weather is warm enough. I think it speaks volumes of your son to want to stick it out at school, most kids would jump at the chance to drop out and not have to go to school everyday.
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It definitely is a warm weather game. But still fun. Yes he is thinking through the options. x
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I love Black Adder
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It’s so funny.
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I tried that game once … but, hands that shake make it nearly impossible, so I never tried again. I may have told you before, that my daughter and I home-schooled my granddaughter Natasha, aka Miss Goose, for the entire 12 years. It began because her Tourette’s Syndrome was so bad that school was a nightmare for her, so she lasted only 2 weeks before she simply ran away from school one day … at age 4! It worked well for us … daughter Chris taught her math, science, English during the day while I worked, and I taught her civics, literature, history, Spanish during the evening while Chris worked. I’m not sure either of us could have done it on our own, though. Still … I must tell you that it was the most rewarding thing I had done. Watching her learn, seeing the lightbulb come on, having her challenge me! Over here, some communities have homeschool groups you can join to get some help … you may want to look into something like that? Whatever you do, I so hope it works out. Hugs to you both!
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Thank you. That gives me so much hope. The single parent/single income thing is a real hindering factor. But like a big wall – you just need to find bits which have blown down in the wind.
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I’m glad! It was truly a great experience and the only regret I have is that today, she is now 25, she has a bit of trouble with dealing face-to-face with strangers. Her social skills are lacking, but once she gets to know someone, she is delightful. The single parent/single income thing is a problem for sure. It seems like you should be able to get a bit of help from the government, but … these days, who knows? Give it a shot anyway. If there is any way in which I can help, I’m here for you.
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Not much. Benefits are tight and they are pushing return to work. So homeschooling doesn’t fit. The other complication is my job is dependent on community and sporting events. If the that pesky virus gets ingrained here then those are likely to be curtailed. No work no money. But my mood is hell with it. Let’s homeschool and I will pick up the pieces when he is independent.
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Sigh. They couldn’t, just for once, give you a helping hand instead of a shove into the mud, could they? You’ll do what you need to … for your son and yourself. I will help if I can, and so will others. Hugs, dear friend.
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Thank you. xxx
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I really enjoyed the first Deadpool and actually think my daughter would like it, naughty bits and all. But maybe I’ll wait another few years just to be sure.
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Must admit I was a bit uncomfortable in places.
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Home school sounds like a good choice. I am so sorry your having such a hard time. life is not easy at times. but I know you know this then anyone. hugs my friend.
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Thank you. The hugs are greatly appreciated.
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