Sometimes it’s the little things….
I’ve just started my fifth year on my grief journey. A journey I would must definitely would rather had not started but now I’m on it, well I might as well make the best of it. And that’s what I am trying to do. For several years it was a nightmare. Just awful. But over time things have slowly moved on. Now it’s definitely good weeks and bad days.
I still get so many reminders of the process I am going through. Many of those are repeated experiences but every so often I still find new reminders.
I was checking the garden for things I could harvest for tonight’s meal and I came across these small tomatoes. Then a thought struck me. There was a time when this was not something I would do. Yes I would grow the tomato plants but that was it. My partner loved tomatoes. She would go out every day I see what could be picked and eaten right there and then. Those days have gone and now the ripe fruit sits and waits for me. That thought made me sad. But life has to go on. Hawklad would like a few fresh tomatoes on his plate. He currently doesn’t feel comfortable touching items outside so it’s down to me. Life goes on. Pick some tomatoes, think of my partner then it’s time to get on with living. Time to focus on the here and now. Find happiness in the world around me. It is most definitely there.
Enjoy these tomatoes and think how happy your partner would be to see that you guys are eating healthy and enjoying it.
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I hope so.
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👍
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🙏
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Home-grown tomatoes 🍅 yummy!
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Yes they are.
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Of course it is and think of the tomatoes as a gift from his mam. x
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That’s such a lovely way of looking at it. Made me smile. Going to tell him that. x
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Aw, that’s so nice. Truly. Thank you.
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He liked the idea x
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A good stage to have reached.
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Absolutely
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Those little tomatoes aren’t much but they can sure taste like pure sunshine right off the vine. Enjoy! 🙂
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Definitely taste better
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You have the most amazing attitude, Gary. I willbe so happy for you when things
come right”.
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Thank you 😊
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Yes, happiness is most definitely still there. I don’t really like raw tomatoes. 😁 I absolutely hated tomatoes as a kid. I can stand them if they’re hidden in something, like a burger. I do enjoy them cooked. But raw…. my taste buds never relented on that one. 😀
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I’m like you they are healthy when hidden . I leave the raw eating up to others including Captain Chaos. 😀
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😀 Yes, that’s good. He is well fed then. 😀
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Yes I hope he is
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Sometimes it’s the little things indeed. Maybe it’s her way of reaching out to you. It could be a gift indeed.
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I hope so.
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I can imagine that when you lose someone, grief sneaks up on you in these unexpected ways all the time.
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Yes it really does.
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This line
“Now it’s definitely good weeks and bad days.”
makes me smile BIG BIG!😁💃🏼🌈💫
I do miss going out to the garden and picking berries or little tomatoes and popping them straight in my mouth. Warm and tasty… like eating a bit of sunshine.
It’s good that you’re keeping her memory alive for you and Hawklad, and it’s better that you’re continuing to LIVE and make new memories together. 💌💌
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It’s the least I could do. I bet your growing weather is better than ours. xxxxxx
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For some things… the biggest problem we have is water. Our water bill tripled when we had our big garden. And blueberries take a LOT of water! Our carrots came out all funky looking and our potatoes were really small.🤷🏼♀️💌💌
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It’s funny I never have to water our blueberry plants and they are in large containers. Yes you can have some of our water x
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Sun tomatoes! We just went through ours a couple weeks ago. Enjoy!
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We still have quite a few trying to ripen but the sun has disappeared.
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That’s funny because ours did not do very well in excess heat lol. Hopefully you get some sun soon 🙂
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That would be good.
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I adore fresh tomatoes. Not as much as I adore popcorn and chocolate. I like the idea that her memories reach out to you in small ways. It’s kind of comforting I guess, sad but comforting that the memories don’t fade. X
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It is. Are you growing any ? x
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Popcorn? 😳
No I don’t have any food growing yet. Next year I am going to have a little veg patch and give it a go. X
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The fine midlands weather will be great for that. x
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Currently pouring down out there x
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It has been here but now we appear to be in the eye of the storm. Sunshine while surrounded by thunderstorms. Lots of floods on the ground. xx
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Bizarre isn’t it?
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Most Bizarre.
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Totally bizarre Dude
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Hope you are ok
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I’m ok. Bit demotivated today.
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How are you doing?
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I’m ok. Just ok. But that’s better than crap.
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It is. Here for you x
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🙏🙏🙏x
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Understandable
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It’s been a tough week with the broken arm, trip to A&E, ongoing work stuff and now everyone at home has a cold. Just gave in this afternoon and have done nothing since. Binge watched tv in my bed. Is that bad?
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No that works. x
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There’s nothing like fresh, home grown tomatoes – they just taste so much better. There will always be reminders but your positive attitude makes a huge difference. Hugs x
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Hawklad definitely loves them, as does the dog.
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Must make you feel good to be resourceful and harvest food from your garden for your meals. It’s a healthy sign…you’re not merely surviving, but making the most out of what life has to offer right now. 😊💕
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Keep your positive attitude and love will find you again or give you the courage to love another again. Garfield hugs!
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It will, thank you.
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Mushrooms make me think of my great grandmother ❤️ my very first loss
My dad’s hobby was gardening – he grew lettuce and squash and tomatoes, pumpkins etc / he always had tricks to keep deer away ✌️
And I always remember going to pick blueberries in Maine or pumpkins here during Halloween 🎃… I have also been to and loved apple orchards ❤️ I live in wine country so there are vineyards everywhere!!!
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Lovely memories.
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