A beautiful gift. The name Poppy has always been special for us. My mum had a sister called Poppy who died as an infant. Always think of mum and her young sister when I hear the name.
That’s the first time a Poppy has grown there. Hopefully many more to come.
In a few weeks it will be 4 years since my partner left this world. A lot has happened in that time. The world has changed, I’ve changed and son has grown – rapidly. It definitely feels like I’m living in a new life cycle now. I’ve stopped trying to reinvent old memories. Started living today. If you don’t do that then life questions
Why,
What if I did that,
Why didn’t I do that.
Trying to fathom answers to those questions is really just playing guessing games. Won’t change what’s happened. It’s not going to help our son and it’s not going to help me.
A Dad trying to cope with the loss of his Partner and becoming a single parent. 
Living in today for tomorrow!
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Absolutely
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👍👍👍
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True
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🙏
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You are doing so well Dad, spreading information about aspergers, humor about weeds, running, teachers, drama class,, life! And being out there for others.
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Thank you so much
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I love poppies too but have never managed to grow one. Red poppies always remind me of Britain and I can easily get into “what if’s”, but as you say, there is no point. May your way forward be happy.
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Never tried. We’ve had yellow ones breaking into the garden this year.
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Once you get one poppy, others will follow. I never realised until recently that you can get them in different colours, and the purple ones are awesome.
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I do hope so.
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That is a rabbit hole that is easy to fall into and hard to battle out from. Realizing those questions won’t help is huge!
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It really is. x
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You will get a lot of poppies. That’s a pretty red done too. Ours are always wish washy orangey yellow. Now my friend, it’s all stages, where you are just now, there was a time when you couldn’t have even looked at these questions, let alone try to answer them. But here’s you realizing some questions can’t be answered and that trying to is not the way on.
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It is all stages and some questions just need to be left well alone.
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Abso, my younger girl said a similar thing about half and hour ago in a message to me and yeah, it is true. Some questions are just a rabbit hole.
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They so are. What’s the old line. If your in a hole don’t dig it deeper.
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Aye, cos you seldom come out the other side .
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No you don’t. So hope it’s a great weekend for you.
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Weather is minging. Gonna make a nice curry for teat-well hope it is nice anyway. . Hope you have a good time too. x
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That curry sounds wonderful. Maybe some old records as well? x
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I make it with basa fish and veg. Believe it or not it is very soft, creamy and not too fishy tasting. Either vinyl or card games tonight. We ended up watching Thelma and Louise. yeah. Not seen it for years. Interesting to see whether it had stood the test of time.
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The poppy is beautiful! Grief changes us in so many ways, if we are willing to grow. Obviously you have. I always find the weeks leading up to such anniversaries are hard on the heart. I don’t know if that is your experience, but it’s mine. If you experience it as well please be extra kind to your self.
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I will thank you x
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A remembrance poppy! Oh, how perfect😍 Mother Nature and the universe are telling you that memories are forever but life is always growing and new, beautiful things can happen anytime… if we open our eyes and our hearts.
This post and your flower make me happy!💫💃🏼💌
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I’m so pleased x
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Did you plant this flower, Gary, or did it just show up on its own? Seeing as you seem surprised to see it, I would geess it showed up on its own. Along the lines of a few of the comments before mine, take the poppy as a sign beautiful things happen anywhere, anytime, especially when you don’t expect them. Remember the past, be open to the present, and you can have a great future. That goes for your son too.
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No never planted a poppy. We’ve had yellow ones appear before.
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1. You should be so proud of yourself and how you have managed this last 4 years. I’ve only known you a few months but I’m honoured to have had the opportunity
2. Making new memories is lovely and old memories are with us forever
3. I adore poppies 😊
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That’s so kind of you x
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All of it true x
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I enjoy reading how you view things Superdad. Poppies are one of my favorite flowers.
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Poppies are so special. Perfect and so beautiful. The feeling is so so mutual. I am still thinking of that religious shop window in Switzerland and one day, maybe seeing one particular book. 😀
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😀😀😀 I would be dissapointed if you stopped saying that.
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I never will 😀😀😀
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Yay! 😀
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Glad you are healing
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🙏
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