A beautiful gift. The name Poppy has always been special for us. My mum had a sister called Poppy who died as an infant. Always think of mum and her young sister when I hear the name.

That’s the first time a Poppy has grown there. Hopefully many more to come.

In a few weeks it will be 4 years since my partner left this world. A lot has happened in that time. The world has changed, I’ve changed and son has grown – rapidly. It definitely feels like I’m living in a new life cycle now. I’ve stopped trying to reinvent old memories. Started living today. If you don’t do that then life questions


What if I did that,

Why didn’t I do that.

Trying to fathom answers to those questions is really just playing guessing games. Won’t change what’s happened. It’s not going to help our son and it’s not going to help me.

39 thoughts on “Poppy

  1. You are doing so well Dad, spreading information about aspergers, humor about weeds, running, teachers, drama class,, life! And being out there for others.

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  2. I love poppies too but have never managed to grow one. Red poppies always remind me of Britain and I can easily get into “what if’s”, but as you say, there is no point. May your way forward be happy.

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  3. You will get a lot of poppies. That’s a pretty red done too. Ours are always wish washy orangey yellow. Now my friend, it’s all stages, where you are just now, there was a time when you couldn’t have even looked at these questions, let alone try to answer them. But here’s you realizing some questions can’t be answered and that trying to is not the way on.

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      1. I make it with basa fish and veg. Believe it or not it is very soft, creamy and not too fishy tasting. Either vinyl or card games tonight. We ended up watching Thelma and Louise. yeah. Not seen it for years. Interesting to see whether it had stood the test of time.


  4. The poppy is beautiful! Grief changes us in so many ways, if we are willing to grow. Obviously you have. I always find the weeks leading up to such anniversaries are hard on the heart. I don’t know if that is your experience, but it’s mine. If you experience it as well please be extra kind to your self.

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  5. A remembrance poppy! Oh, how perfect๐Ÿ˜ Mother Nature and the universe are telling you that memories are forever but life is always growing and new, beautiful things can happen anytime… if we open our eyes and our hearts.

    This post and your flower make me happy!๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’Œ

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  6. Did you plant this flower, Gary, or did it just show up on its own? Seeing as you seem surprised to see it, I would geess it showed up on its own. Along the lines of a few of the comments before mine, take the poppy as a sign beautiful things happen anywhere, anytime, especially when you don’t expect them. Remember the past, be open to the present, and you can have a great future. That goes for your son too.

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  7. 1. You should be so proud of yourself and how you have managed this last 4 years. Iโ€™ve only known you a few months but Iโ€™m honoured to have had the opportunity
    2. Making new memories is lovely and old memories are with us forever
    3. I adore poppies ๐Ÿ˜Š

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